You Are What You Accept

4694342-Jay-Z-Quote-Don-t-ever-go-with-the-flow-Be-the-flowYou teach people how you would like to be treated, by how you react to what they say or do.

Either by acceptance of what they do to you or by you reprimanding them.

To correct someone on how you would like to be treated, I believe, comes from raising your standards.

Low standards allows them to continue “taking advantage” of you, while raising them educates them on how you would like to be treated.

It takes courage to put yourself first.

It takes courage futhi to “equip” people on how you like to be treated, in order for them to bring out the best in you.

It’s a win-win.

Reminds me of how I cringe when people organize events at the last minute and expect me to participate.

9 times out of 10 I don’t. If I do, it is with a closed heart.

Give me time to think it over in my mind as a typical melancholy. Don’t pull a sanguine move on me and expect to me to be jolly about it.

But then again I’m an introvert, so being “out there” drains my energy, at times.

I’m just at a point in my life, with all that’s happening, where I cannot “go with the flow” that goes against my core values.

Living a lie is tiring.

There is power outside your comfort zone.

~ Musa

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You Don’t Know What You Don’t Know…

You remember the text I told you about that ma aunt sent me?

Here it is:

Jack MA, The Richest Man in China said:images

“If you put Bananas and Money in front of Monkeys, Monkeys will choose Bananas because monkeys do not know that Money can buy a lot of Bananas.”

IN REALITY: If you offer JOB and BUSINESS to people, they would choose JOB because most people do not know that BUSINESS can bring more MONEY than Wages.

Similarly, Robert Kiyosaki, author of the best selling book “RICH DAD, POOR DAD” and also a business partner of Donald Trump said:images (1)

“One of the reasons poor is that are poor, is because they are NOT TRAINED TO RECOGNIZE ENTREPRENEURSHIP OPPORTUNITIES.”

“They spend too much time in school and what they have learnt in school, is to WORK FOR WAGES instead of MONEY WORKING FOR THEM.”

“Profit is better than Wages, for Wages can make you a living but Profits can bring you a Fortune.”

THINK INVESTMENT and stop fighting over increments of salaries, it still won’t be enough

Hear this from a Professor to freshmen and women during their orientation: (Actually he is an Acting DVC Academic at a small/new university in Kenya):

“Academic excellence is overrated!

Being top of your class does not necessarily guarantee that you will be at the top of life.

You could graduate as the best student in Finance but it doesn’t mean you will make more money than everybody else.

The best graduating Law student does not necessarily become the best lawyer.

The fact is, life requires more than the ability to understand a concept, memorise it and reproduce it in an exam.

School rewards people for their memory.

Life rewards people for their imagination.

School rewards caution, life rewards daring.

School hails those who live by the rules. Life exalts those who break the rules and set new ones.

So do I mean people shouldn’t study hard in school? Oh, no, you should. But don’t sacrifice every other thing on the altar of First Class.

Don’t limit yourself to the classroom. Do something practical. Take a leadership position.
Start a business and fail. That’s a better Entrepreneurship 101.

Join or start a club. Contest an election and lose. It will teach you something Political Science 101 will not teach you.

Attend a seminar.

Read books outside the scope of your course.

Go on missions and win a soul for eternal rewards…

Do something you believe in!

Think less of becoming an excellent student but think more of becoming an excellent person.

Don’t make the classroom to be your world but Make the world your classroom.

Step forward, try politics, try farming, try business, try an extra thing.”

Don’t feel shy to share with your children.

……..

Which my aunt did, hence me paying it forward on here.

Not that you are my children, the one I already have is a handful.

But why should I be the only one getting informative message?

~ Musa

Stop Giving Your Power Away…

Execution_by_Kiss…expecting other people to make you happy…

…Thing is I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel valued at work.

But feel like if that’s the basis of you define how good your company is, it should be a testament of your character.

You are one of those who have an entitlement mentality.

Expecting other people to make you happy.

And if they don’t, you throw your toys out the cot.

Ranting about how unfair life is, and not taking 100% responsibility of your life.

Everybody else must change before you can change kinda deal.

And that keeps on the back foot.

Because you are waiting for something you don’t totally have control over to change before you are happy.
But if you get your shit in order, making sure that you come first and not depending on others to validate you, I think that gives you power.

More control.

You gotta take care of you first, because should you lose your job, the job you identify and associate your worthy by, what then?

Depression?

Suicide?

Guard against that shit is all I’m saying.

Know your worth.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

~ Musa

How Was Your Average, Perfect Day?

I read a beautiful blog post, shared by my team leader in the work group Whatsapp (how I despise these groups) titled The Perfect Average Day.

Like the English saying, I walked a mile in her shoes.

Or was it her high heels.

It was relatable.

Well written.

I loved it.

But some of my work colleagues didn’t.

Commenting about how she should use the opportunities within her company to better her living conditions.

To better HER perfect, average day.

Another commented about how there’s nothing special about her day since there are others who go through worse.

Another commented on what kind of response did the writer want? Compassion?

In the back of mind I thought, guys…it’s not a competition.

It’s not about compassion.

Why the hostility?

Is it shame, or embarrassment?

Having some parts of your life displayed like that for all to see, maybe making you feel intimidated?

Or was it because it was a woman who wrote that story?

Did she struck a cord maybe?

This was because I believed she wrote that just to share a part of her life with a receptive audience.

Just because she writes and that’s what writers do.

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No hidden agendas.

Maybe that’s the writer in me talking.

Maybe they are acting this way because it’s one of those photos that don’t make it to their Instagrams.

Because it has no filter.

Too real.

In the world of the Internet, there is no such thing as over sharing.

So instead of pointing out their insecurities, I decided to blog about it here.

I do my best to avoid an argument.

It’s like what this book I’m re-reading says,

“A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
How To Make Friends and Influence People. 

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

PS. By the way here’s the link to the blog I’m talking about http://conversationswithaesha.blogspot.co.za/2017/04/the-perfect-average-day.html?m=0

What Makes You Tick??

I don’t have a mean streak.51b2jck12dl-_sx331_bo1204203200_

I have a cold one.

I just don’t like to be bothered, that is why I don’t like bothering other people.

But I hear when it comes to business, since Musa wants to be a business owner – having that kind of attitude limits the people I could serve, which then limits the growth of my business.

Not that I want to be in the business of bothering people but interaction is key in order to leave people with more.

Either through deeds or service rendered.

I’m going off topic now.

Anyways I just realized recently, that one of my highest values is relationships.

It’s integrity and honesty and relationships, my top 3.

Relationship building though is something I’ve been working on since, due to my introverted nature, I don’t socialize much.

That genuine connection that has no T&Cs.

Because according to Florence Littauer I’m a perfect melancholy and part powerful choleric.

That’s the comfort zone I need to slip out from every now and then…most of the time.

Since success lies at the end of your comfort zone.

It’s just that if you violate the 1st two of my top values then it also puts a twist on how I relate to you.

Resulting with me being cagey and cold and distant.

I just fume when I am disrespected, especially since according to my knowledge no disrespect was given to you from my end.

Or yes, let’s add respect as well.

So it’s integrity, honesty, respect and relationships are my top values.

Mess with that then I end up being on the offensive.

It just hit me now, so I thought I should share.

It’s important to know what your values are…the things that makes you tick.

The better you understand yourself, the easier it is for you to express yourself.

Speaking about knowing thy self, my recommended read for you today is Personality Plus a book by Florence Littauer – which is a great book about different personality types and how you can communicate and better understand and communicate with them.

It’s awesome if you want to improve the quality of your relationships at home, work, school and your every day run ins.

Thank you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

~ Musa