You Want My Relationship Advice?

Let me start off by saying that relationships are funny.

Not funny “haha” but funny “ya neh.”

You’ll never get it right, all the time, 100% of the time.

I’m just thankful for the educational program I was on, with books and CDS on what relationships work.

Especially introducing me to books like Personality Plus and The 5 Love Languages, in that order preferably.eysenck

The way I was effing things up in my relationship with Thube, I’m not sure why she stuck with me for so long.

But those books helped me understand her and her, me.

Maybe the one thing we had going for us was that we both wanted us to work.

Even though I was sabotaging the relationship from the fear of losing someone who made me feel so good.

Let me explain:

Growing up, I taught myself not to be attached to events or things that made me feel good.

Because there was no guarantee that I was going to get them again.

Sometimes the parents had to work their butts off so my sister and I can have a taste of the good life.

So when good came in our household – in whatever form – I registered them as temporary.

I should expect a retake for a while, if ever.

Because I’m a clingy and sensitive SOB.

So enter Thube.

The name of that chapter in my life would be “The Psychologist.”

She flirted herself into a now 13 year relationship with me, that one.2013-03-01_1244_thumb-590x400

It’s only in the past year or so that I’m STARTING to understand what makes her tick.

My love for knowledge and how things work makes this an infinite game.

I love games.

So I always try to improve where I can.

And that’s why I speak so highly about those books.

They definitely helped me understand myself better.

It helped me understand her better.

But I had to be open and be vulnerable first.

Something society sees as “unmanly.”

And as a chauvinist, humbling myself and practicing mutual respect is still a work in progress for me.

~ Musa

Neville’s Lazy Person’s Guide to Riches & Success

I read a book where the author suggests I sleep my way into success. Not in the scandalous way that some would akin sex and success with, but literally using my nap time to achieve success.

The doctor who wrote this book calls it “Nevillizing” your goal. Which is a process of visualizing what you want to achieve, as you are about to go to sleep.

But not just visualizing the desired goal but activating all five senses as you visualize.

Take owing that beautiful house you want, but have no idea how you are going to pay for it, for example, what would you see as you are walking through it? What sounds do you hear as you approach the sliding door or balcony leading you to the lawn or ocean view outside? How do the rooms smells like? What favourite dish do you smell your chef cooking? What does it taste like? Do you feel the heat of your fireplace or the cool air con against your skin?

Keep in mind that the “how” you will leave for the Divine forces to deal with, what you will be focusing on with this exercise is the desire and clarity of detail in the “what” of your desire.

Feel the realness of each of your senses as you proceed, in your mind’s eye, to whatever location you want to explore in your mental home, feeling yourself going through your home, touching, tasting, hearing, smelling and feeling, with such intensity that must feel like, as you are drifting off to sleep, that you are in that very house right there and then.

Going over and over this sensory, vivid images in your mind until you drift off to sleep (this mental game can be applied with matter goal you would like see resolved in whatever area, be it money, health, relationships, etc), and every time you go to sleep, night after night, making it a point to practice this “emotionalized” visualization & falling asleep in that state – would produce for you miraculous outcomes that are in harmony with the clarity of your nightime conjuring, that will blow you mind.

I guess the idea was so thrilling to me that I ended up attracting the guy that “originated” the idea. In fact I believe Neville Goddard held evening seminars dedicated to the using vivid of imaginations, triggering as much pleasing senses & crystal clear creativity as you can, to achieve whatever desire you want. Having personally experienced and receiving testimony from others to back this up.

Go to this link to download a 2 part audio of Neville’s Goddard’s technique to success.

It’s too good to be true, and since I am one who does that which most call going against the grain, I am opening my mind to the idea of using the “creative power of my imagination” to mold life as I what it to be.

It’s past 3:10 am and I feel every time I “do” what I feel needs to be done so to generate the income to pay off my expenses at the end of the month it feels off-ish.

I told myself, after quitting my job last month, that I will use the principles Infinite Intelligence inspires me to use so to produce the effortless, unlimited, liberating results the corporate life wasn’t not producing for me.

The “experienced,” the “qualified,” the “experts” talk about how there are no short cut to success, yet they seem to ignore how this friend of mine continues to repeat in his videos, audios and reading material he left for me that “what the mind of man can conceive, and believe – the mind of man can achieve.”

“A belief is only a thought you keep thinking.” – Abraham, The Vortex

“Beliefs are how we create reality.” – Dr. Joe Vitale, [affiliate link] Spiritual Marketing

I have been doing, and doing, and doing not allowing myself to just be. And begin to vibrate into a new, higher vibration that matches my desired goal. Allowing Inspiration to guide me through this manifesting process with the ease and flow I believe all success should came by.

We got sold the idea of how success should be hard for us & scoff at others who successes come easily for them, associating criminal or scandalous acts as the reason behind their achievements in our jealously.

And yet I still say, “What the mind of man can conceive, and believe – the mind of man can achieve.”

Hear what this friend of mine has to say about his version of “The Lazy Person’s Guide to Riches” & I dare you to be one of the few who will commit themselves to practicing this manifestation process until the unbelievable results show.

http://loamastermind.com/blog/2008/11/the-secret-of-imagination/

(c) Musawenkosi Tshoaele, 2010. All rights reserved.

Success Books: Books That Will Change Your Life

Here is a list of the top 5 books I would recommend you to read if you want change in your life.

Go to the library or buy them and invest in your personal growth and development.

Keep in mind that there is a difference between knowing and doing, the latter will bring in wealth in all areas of your life.

  1. Think and Grow Rich By Napoleon Hill Amazon.com
  2. The Richest Man In Babylon By George S. Classon Amazon.com
  3. The Science Of Getting Rich By Wallace D. Wattles Amazon.com
  4. Conversations With God By Neale Donald Walsch Amazon.com
  5. Rich Dad, Poor Dad By Robert T. Kiyosaki Amazon.com


– Tshoaele