Born Again

kinopoisk.ruI think Constantine was the best DC movie that DC have ever made.

A close number 2 being  V for Vendetta.

Shazam, Aquaman, Wonder Woman, Justice League, and Batman vs Superman, were okayish.

I take that back, Wonder Woman was freaking awesome!

The Dark Knight Trilogy were on a league of their own.

I think the struggle they [DC] are having is marring all these movies into leading up to an “Avengers” kind of build-up…”Justice League Part II” in this case because Justice League wasn’t so great.

I don’t see that happening as effectively as Marvel did with their movies.

But if they have the money, and the time, I would like to see how successful they would be in their attempt.

I love the planning that went into Avengers: Endgame.

Talk about reverse engineering, right?

Knowing what you want at the end of the day, and then working & planning backwards from there.

It’s either that or I love the idea of seeing the good guys not living happily ever after.

Like in Troy.

I plan like this for most of my smaller goals, like getting to work on time.

I need to use it for my bigger goals.

So for example when I need to be at work by 10 AM and I’m using public transport, I would calculate that I need to be in town by 9 AM so that it would give me an hour dedicated to travelling to work.2f3c4b27ad724469ac8e336ca03c1c5f (1)

This means I need to be in the taxi cab from my place going to town by 8 AM.

So I need to be up by 7 AM.

Then Musa sets alarm clock for 7 AM.

But all of this begins by knowing what my aim is.

What is your aim?

Whether we would like to admit it or not, we are goal creating beings.

We are living in linear plane where we have a forward momentum towards everything in our world.

And since we are going forward like we are, we can’t help but to be heading towards something.

Some are heading towards a vague idea of what they want to achieve.

The few are heading to towards a crystal, clear idea of exactly what they want.7-habits.jpg

And one of the way they gain that vision is through reverse engineering planning.

I think I got this idea from reading those self-help books that were available in the library my aunt took me to, so she can use the time to study.

I used the time to read all sorts of works until I dared myself to read one thick book by Dr. Stephen R. Covey.

That book opened me up to a whole new world.

Re-reading that book opened up my brain to a new kind of living.

I was born-again.

~ Musa

You Are Your Addictions

I’m an impulsive guy and I don’t believe in denying myself of anything I crave.

The one disclaimer is that it shouldn’t come at the expense of others.

A disclaimer I’ve been striving to live up to.

There are urges or repetitive habits we indulge in that makes us all “addicts.”

Phone addicts.

Series addicts.

TV drama addicts.

Music addicts.

Movie addicts.

Download/streaming addicts.

Social media likes.

Partying.

Staying at home.

Alcoholic.

Smoking.

Sex.

Money making.

Money spending.

Action oriented.

Tattoo.

Gym.

Information gathering.

In some shape or form we are all addicted to something.

It comes back to what Mr. Anthony Robbins said about being able to identify the emotional fulfillment you achieve from getting your next “fix”, will help you replace your addiction to one that works for you and not against you.

But I think the first step is to have the emotional intelligence Dr. Stephen R. Covey writes about of being aware of your “addictions”.

And being able to recognize whether they are working for you or not.

Then having the guts to put in the work needed to train your brain, over a period of time, in indulging in those habits (addictions) that will take you ahead in your life.

The things you repeatedly do or repeatedly don’t do, unconsciously and over time is the result of where you are right now.

~ Musa

Who Have You Equipped Today?

So today is yet another day…oh yeah I now remember what I wanted to blog about.

Equipping was a word Dr J. Maxwell taught me in his book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You.

I didn’t realize the different meaning of the word until he explained it to me.

I won’t be able to re-explain it exactly the way he did, but I’ll try.

Maxwell wrote about how he taught the staff, at his favorite restaurant, how he would like to be served.

It made sense.

I mean, if you value my business, as a patron, then you need to serve me the way I like. So that I can keep me as a customer.

How he would like to be treated from the moment he enters the restaurant, how things should be laid out for him during his stay, all the way up until he leaves.

Maxwell equipped them on how they can better keep him as a customer.

It’s a win-win situation, like Dr. S. Covey described in The 7 Steps to Highly Effective People.

Maxwell has a pleasant experience being services and they get to keep this internationally influential customer under their belt.

I decided to try this “equipping” idea on a colleague.

Integrity is one of my highest values, so when I loan you money and you say you will pay me back tomorrow, only for you to come up with a story when tomorrow comes, it violates one of my highest values.

It’s an insult to me.

And I don’t like to be disrespected.

Respect being another of my other top values.

So I gave it a shot.

My colleague asked for money from me again, and said he will pay me back at theend of our shift.

The time came when the reimbursement was due, and like a creature of habit, he asked if he can pay me tomorrow.

I replied that I could wait for tomorrow.

It caught him by surprise, usually I just say yes and allow people like him to walk all over me.

I didn’t feel like being a doormat that day.

I asked if I heard him right when he said he was going to pay me back at the end of our shift.

He said he did. I then asked what happened.

An question he couldn’t answer.

He proceeded gearing his mind and actions towards paying me back, like he said.

The way he threw the money back in my hands, was not with the same grace I loaned him with.

Which was fine, because it sets up one for two possible future scenarios:

  1. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he just won’t.
  2. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he knows he would need to deliver on time.

He has been equipped.

He might try me a few more times so he can try his luck.

I would then need to be consistent with my equipping him.

It puts me in a place of power and control. I hate being reactive.

How about you?

~ Musa

You Fear the Sabre-tooth

6753809I read somewhere that the brain is wired since the stone age to think negatively so to protect us from the dangers that existed then.

Sabre-tooth as an example.

These days this negative thinking works overtime, stopping us from getting ahead in life.

Because we fear trying something new.

Fear of the Sabre-tooth.

This happens without us even realizing.

Without reading, preferably instructional books, then nothing will contradict that thinking.

You could even try swapping listening to the car radio station or your phone playlist for an audiobook.

The hours you spent while traveling, could be spent sharpening your mind against the Sabre-tooth.

Marvel_avengers_alliance_sabretooth_by_ratatrampa87-d6tj8tgThe benefits of investing in yourself will eventually be seen via your outlook in your life.

Maybe that’s what you need.

Maybe that’s what need.

A different outlook.

That comes from developing a habit of reading or listening daily to go sh*t.

~ Musa

Replace Your S** t Habits With Good Ones

I kept on seeing and hearing the name Simon Sinek being projected in my head.

Simon Sinek.

As if stuck in the frontal lobe of my brain.

Simon Sinek.

All this, haunting, while trying to sleep.

So here I am, writing about him.

I don’t know much about him.

He was first brought to my attention by a business partner who has a background in medicine.

Google Sinek.

From the little I know of him is that he’s a speaker.

He speaks about most about leadership. On what defines a leader and what drives her. Reasons why they are true leaders. Amongst other things.

He’s available on different social media sites, I also follow him on Twitter and IG.

He’s an author as well, he wrote Start With Why.

And there are lots of videos on the ‘Tube that have he’s talks.

I think there’s a vid of one of his talks I posted in one of my blogs that I thought was awesome.

There’s a bias that comes with being a leader that I want to take advantage of.

The monetary benefits of being paid to solve problems being one of them.

It’s as if followers create problems while leaders get paid to solve them.

So I’ve been listening to some of his audios as well. Him, John Maxwell and Gary Vaynerchuk are the 3 guys I’ve been filling my head with of late.

And Eric Thomas. #TGIM

I guess I can be obsessed with certain things in my life, such as my personal development.

If I don’t invest the time for it, noone else will.

Then I will just be like the rest of them, blaming my job or spouse or community or the government or the gods for my current, undesirable situations.

Not realising that the true problem here is me.

I fix me, all else gets fixed.

It’s an inside job.

~ Musa

You Are What You Accept

4694342-Jay-Z-Quote-Don-t-ever-go-with-the-flow-Be-the-flowYou teach people how you would like to be treated, by how you react to what they say or do.

Either by acceptance of what they do to you or by you reprimanding them.

To correct someone on how you would like to be treated, I believe, comes from raising your standards.

Low standards allows them to continue “taking advantage” of you, while raising them educates them on how you would like to be treated.

It takes courage to put yourself first.

It takes courage futhi to “equip” people on how you like to be treated, in order for them to bring out the best in you.

It’s a win-win.

Reminds me of how I cringe when people organize events at the last minute and expect me to participate.

9 times out of 10 I don’t. If I do, it is with a closed heart.

Give me time to think it over in my mind as a typical melancholy. Don’t pull a sanguine move on me and expect to me to be jolly about it.

But then again I’m an introvert, so being “out there” drains my energy, at times.

I’m just at a point in my life, with all that’s happening, where I cannot “go with the flow” that goes against my core values.

Living a lie is tiring.

There is power outside your comfort zone.

~ Musa

Gangster Letters

LetterHow can I use what I just read to improve my job?

How can I use what I have read to improve on my family life?

How can I use what I’ve read to improve on my income?

How can I use what I’ve gained to improve on my health?

~ Musa

Don’t just read for the sake of it my guy, read to improve on these areas in your life.

That’s what you did with Dr. S. Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

How you tracked your day, hourly even, with what needed to be done per hour… you remember that?

You were Mr Super Effective!

Get that going with what you’re reading now, so to get the ball rolling.

You see were your wife’s thinking is headed? Because she anticipates the future and prepares for it.

Something you were doing before you stopped. Think it’s because you got what you wanted. 

Success stopped you. 

Re-visit this strategy. It worked for you and a lot of things improved.

Like right now.

Things need to improve buddy.

~ G

“The Book You Never Read Won’t Change You”

Was just thinking about affirmations.

About how everyone uses them.

Some use them knowingly and a lot of us do not.

But how the most effective people use affirmations intentionally.

Deliberately leading them to situations they would rather be in.

To paraphrase, affirmations are statements you repeatedly say to yourself.

Which then influence your actions.

Which then generates the results you have in your life.

Some use this affirmation process to guide the direction of their lives to producing the results they want.

Some don’t.

This is not based on my endless research on the subject though.

I don’t have a PhD in Affirmations.

Nah, this is based on my personal experience.

At a time when I was at my most effective.

I use the word “effective” because I created momentum for myself, by taking action regularly with the assistance of this affirmation process, thanks to the good Dr Stephen Covey’s book “The Seven Steps of Highly Effective People.”

In fact I got jealous when I was having a meeting with a potential business partner and she mentioned that she’s going through it and was in love with the principles Covey was teaching.

Teachings at the time I place at the back of my mind.

It took me back to a time when I had a love affair with reading, on any subject, the weirder the better, which led me to this Seven Habits book.

A book that introduced me to the world of personal development.

Never be just a “passing” reader.

Take action on at least one of the suggested mentioned in that instructive you are reading.

Grow with every book or article you read.

The book you never read won’t change you.

A changed you is needed if you want to see changed results.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela