Nothing Beats The Grind

After 2-3 weeks of submitting a minimum of 10 resumes a day, I finally got a job. My fiance’s family fed me during the holidays hustle.

A very humbling experience since I am a prideful man.

I don’t like getting handouts because in my life I’ve come to find that most handouts come with an IOU tag.

I don’t want to be indebted to anyone.

So being in the position I was in, made me grind harder.

I think I sent out those CVs and with me going to interviews between.

Some interviews where scams, some promising. But I kept submitting them promising or not.

Most people start slowling where nearing the finish line.

I slow down once I cross it.

Hell, I even turned to reading the bible.

You know shit’s hit the fan when I pick up “the book.”

It kept me going. That and seeing the unbothered smile on my daughter’s face.

She hit the side of her eye, that one, playing in the playgrounds at cresche.

Had to get stitched. Busy walking around with an eye the size of a golf ball. To put it mildly, she was not impressed seeing the world with one eye.

But I’m glad I was there to assist with the healing process.

But it was her mom that kept me above water mainly. There’s no one I appreciated more, beyond words even, than her, during this period.

I felt stripped of my title as a provider.

As a man, if I cannot provide for my family, what am I?

Feeling lost, going to bed with a broken heart. I was without purpose and I felt depressed.

The need to feel needed by corporate was overwhelming. Which felt like a contradiction because I promote the idea of owning your own business.

A purposeless, non providing, hypocrite of the a man.

And I knew if I start hating myself then there won’t be any improvement in my life.

So I kept my black ass working to keep from thinking negative thoughts.

Because my thinking was shit.

It worked, at face level.

But for lasting results, I need that deep kinda loving.

That only I can provide from the inside out.

The grind paid off.

Now employed on a probationary basis.

Work ethic + being intentional + the law of averages working in my favour produced results.

With prayer and work ethic, something’s got to give.

And it did.

As expected.

~ Musa

PS. This was a delayed post. My baby girl is all healed up now. Mischievous as hell. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

You Want My Relationship Advice?

Let me start off by saying that relationships are funny.

Not funny “haha” but funny “ya neh.”

You’ll never get it right, all the time, 100% of the time.

I’m just thankful for the educational program I was on, with books and CDS on what relationships work.

Especially introducing me to books like Personality Plus and The 5 Love Languages, in that order preferably.eysenck

The way I was effing things up in my relationship with Thube, I’m not sure why she stuck with me for so long.

But those books helped me understand her and her, me.

Maybe the one thing we had going for us was that we both wanted us to work.

Even though I was sabotaging the relationship from the fear of losing someone who made me feel so good.

Let me explain:

Growing up, I taught myself not to be attached to events or things that made me feel good.

Because there was no guarantee that I was going to get them again.

Sometimes the parents had to work their butts off so my sister and I can have a taste of the good life.

So when good came in our household – in whatever form – I registered them as temporary.

I should expect a retake for a while, if ever.

Because I’m a clingy and sensitive SOB.

So enter Thube.

The name of that chapter in my life would be “The Psychologist.”

She flirted herself into a now 13 year relationship with me, that one.2013-03-01_1244_thumb-590x400

It’s only in the past year or so that I’m STARTING to understand what makes her tick.

My love for knowledge and how things work makes this an infinite game.

I love games.

So I always try to improve where I can.

And that’s why I speak so highly about those books.

They definitely helped me understand myself better.

It helped me understand her better.

But I had to be open and be vulnerable first.

Something society sees as “unmanly.”

And as a chauvinist, humbling myself and practicing mutual respect is still a work in progress for me.

~ Musa

I Don’t Want To Be An Entrepreneur

That N word is such a burden.

It’s a cute thing to add on my social media bio that: “I’m an Entrepreneur.”

But truth of the matter is I’m on my PlayStation, while posting such on my Twitter page.

Have people thinking Musa is on “the grind.”

Kanti kuphi lapho…

Trying to promote an illusion on FaceBook, having people into thinking that you’ve got game…sh** like that will catch up to you.

Yes, I was on that stock market trading tip then the internet marketing grind. After that then it’s was the full time direct sales gig and what else…oh yeah, network marketing.

And in between that stuff, it was a 9-5.

It’s just there’s so much respect that I have for people who really run their business. Small business that they didn’t inherent. That seeing people claiming what they aren’t irks me.

It’s as if they are disrespecting the people who really are.

The businesswomen & businessmen who make those hard decisions like:

The Dream or the relationship.

Pay rent or the staff.

Full 9 hours sleep of guaranteed monthly salary or those sleepless nights not knowing whether the client will pay up on not.

People, a small percentage, really hustle out there hey?

Too busy to be posting motivational memes every 3 minutes on IG.

Success is boring.

Success is slow.

Success is consistency.

Success is long-term.

Success is worth it.

Social media allows you to post things that aren’t true.

But like all things, the truth shall out.

Live an honest life bud.

My take…I don’t want to be getting my money from only one income source.

I don’t think that makes me an entrepreneur. Or does it?

Coz that’s my endgame…

…hold up come I google.

Entrepreneur…

a person who sets up a business or businesses, taking on financial risks in the hope of profit.
“many entrepreneurs see potential in this market”

synonyms: businessman, businesswoman, business person, business executive, enterpriser, speculator, tycoon, magnate; More

  • a promoter in the entertainment industry.

    “the music entrepreneur pulled back from financing a screenplay Hopper had written”

Shoot, then that means anyone can be an entrepreneur.

But those that do the work become successful entrepreneurs… Eventually.

It compounds.

Needed to put that disclaimer there.

And that’s the rub, being successful.

You need to work.

Taking the hits of becoming good at your niche, there’s no smooth sailing in this game.

Being embrassed for a few years that will set you up for life.

You either keep getting knocked around & being made someone’s bitch at your job or learn how to make something of your life.

Even Thokozane outlined on a tweet I retweeted #NoExcuses.

You need courage & mentoring if you are looking for additional sources of income that will eventually free you from a job.

Either that or keep complaining about your BS job.

You are worth more than than s*** job you are 10 seconds away from being fired from.

You weren’t raised to be someone’s bitch.

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Don’t be an entrepreneur.

Be a successful one.

No matter how long it takes.

Or die trying.

I don’t want to be an entrepreneur. But I want to be a hustler. For my family but more importantly for my well-being.

Go to where you are valued. If that means getting a job then go for it.

Financially it doesn’t make sense to me to only rely on one source of income.

That’s financial suicide.

~ Musa

A Business Like No Other…

new-mlm-companiesI think network marketing levels the playing field.

I could be wrong, it’s just my observation.

From my limited observation, businesses are handed over from generation to generation.

The only legacy I’ve seen being left the masses is poverty.

Some families are brought up with the option of aspiring to be business owner, while other families are sold the idea of becoming employees or self employed.

Asking the government to fix this in the form of land distribution, for instance, is as effective as the removal of our now current President from office.

But network marketing nullifies this dependent mindset.

The right one also offers you training and mentorship on how to succeed by also developing a business owner mindset.

But the best ones allow for your network marketing business to be passed on from generation to generation, just like these families I spoke of earlier.

With the right training to develop your skills, I believe anyone can succeed in what they put their minds to.

Multi level marketing included.

One of the hiccups I have with conventional business is the start up capital, amongst other uncertainties.

But obviously if you are committed enough and want it badly enough then you can find solutions around that.

I guess one chooses ones battles.

With me preferring minimum start up capital.

Minimal operational costs.

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With some part time but consistent work ethic, the results are predictable.

Results that can supplement my current salary.

Results that can be on par with my current salary.

Results that can eclipse my current salary.

A business like no other.

Look as a disclaimer, anything legit that allows you to make extra income is great.

Be it MLMs or another job or part time gig or strip joints.

I’m just talking about what I’m exposed to.

Do you due dilengece.

This working you way up to your salary month end only to start at zero the following month, is insane.

But most of us are doing it so it’s ok right?

I don’t think so.

~ Musa

The Reason Why You Are Single…According to Tony Robbins

It’s amazing on how one simple strategy can change the way you interact in your relationships.

As opposed to the current one you are using now that is giving you average results.fork-in-the-road-dreams-meaning

Like this one relationship tip Tony Robbins just gave me through a YouTube video titled why are you single.

Mind you I’m not single, I just love learning.

He brought to the surface something I always do…did to my girlfriend.

Maybe you would interpret it differently when you watch the clip, but he showed me how when she’s asking a question, it’s really not about get my opinion on the matter, but more on what she wants to see happen.

And once we discuss and unravel the subject at hand I, as the man in her life, need to take action towards making it happen.

Because women love a man who has a high level of certainty.

I took for granted that my baby wants someone who is certain and decisive.

I also wouldn’t want to have a wimp as a lover.

This information helped me to fulfill the kind of guy I want her to see me as.

Hope you found this useful.

~ Musa

How To Write Your 100+ Dreams  List – Part 2

1. What 5 things you would like to learn in your lifetime?

  • Learning how to swim
  • Learning how to tread water
  • Learning the guitar
  • Learning judo
  • Learning to make an extra $100 per month on the internet
  • Learning how to eat with chopsticks

2. What 5 family experiences you would like to provide for your family?

  • Vacation to table mountain
  • Vacation to Victoria Falls
  • Vacation to God’s Window
  • Vacation to Mauritius
  • Picnic in Pretoria park

3. What 5 things you want to do just once?

  • Hot air balloon ride with Thube
  • Date night with Thube on a hotel balcony overlook Paris Eiffel Tower
  • Sky diving
  • Bungee jumping
  • Walking the length of on the great wall of China

4. What 5 sporting events you would like to go to live?

  • Orlando Pirates soccer match
  • American football game
  • Formula one grand prix with my father in Monte Carlo
  • US open tennis match
  • Jeppe boys rowing race
  • Ultimate Fighting Championship Event

5. What 5 things you would like to share or teach others?

  • Sharing my life experiences published in book form
  • Sharing 10% of my income to my favourite charity
  • Teaching 5 people how to make R1200 network marketing passive income every month for the rest of their lives
  • Sharing 10% of my income towards credit card surplus
  • Teaching Tumi how to drive

6. What 5 challenges you would like to conquer in your lifetime?

  • Mastering building a R200,000 network marketing business asset that gives me an extra R1,200 per month passive income every month for the rest of my life
  • Having a R10,000 per month passive network marketing income by December 2017
  • Having attracted 20+ business minded and ambitious people to the March 2017 Business Seminar
  • New formal look at work with new formal shoes
  • Driving in an grey Aston Martin DBS

7. What 5 personal characteristics you would like to develop?

  • Being more charismatic
  • More self confidence
  • Having a positive mental attitude
  • Being more enthusiastic
  • Being more money conscious
  • Speaking well of others even when I’m not around them

8. What 5 financial milestones you would like to achieve?

  • Building a R5000 per month passive income generating network marketing business
  • Building a network marketing asset that generates R10000 passive income every month
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R15000 per month passive income
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R20000 per month passive income
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R40000 per month passive income after tax for the rest of my life – talk about having a modest pension in my later years right?

9. What 5 things you would like to do in your community?

  • Sponsor rowing kit for my high school
  • Invest in a Wi-Fi free zone
  • Start a foundation that increases the amount of self-development books in libraries
  • Escalation hotline to speed up services delivery queries
  • Landscaping business that offers free services for selected clients
  • Building a library dedicated to self improvement books under my name

10. What 5 concerts you would like to attend live?

  • Black coffee
  • DJ Franky
  • Dj Sika
  • Jay Z
  • Opera concert

11. What 5 cities would like to explore?

  • Orlando, USA
  • Port Elizabeth, South Africa
  • London, England
  • Beijing, China
  • Bangkok, Thailand (I think)

12. What 5 things you like to do in your own country?

  • Quad bike riding
  • Drinks at Chaf pozi
  • Shot left to East London
  • Road trip to cape town
  • Gold reef with family

13. What 5 cultural events you would like to attend?

  • Colour run
  • Annual carnival in Brazil
  • Annual jazz carnival at New Orleans
  • Annual cape town carnival
  • Chinese new year celebration

14. What 5 goals achieved in the past and would like to achieve again?

  • Receiving R10000 monthly after tax income
  • Being recognized on a network 21 stage
  • Getting my own passport
  • Travelling internationally on a plane
  • R15000 lobola contribution

15. What 5 things you would like to design?

  • Wooden bench
  • Family home
  • Rocking chair
  • Shopping mall
  • Hotels

16. What 5 businesses you would like to build?

  • Cashflow rich network marketing business
  • Email marketing business
  • Landscaping business
  • Public speaking business
  • Real estate business
  • Futures and Forex trading businesses

17. What 5 things you would like to create?

  • Flourishing new town
  • Network marketing asset portfolio
  • Real estate asset portfolio
  • Stock trading asset portfolio
  • Family park with free WiFi

18. What 5 things you would like to own?

  • Aston Martin DBS
  • Cashflow rich Beach apartments
  • Cashflow rich Townhouses
  • Cashflow rich Block of flats
  • A single level Houghton mansion
  • Cashflow rich network marketing business that generates R120000 p.a.

19. What 5 health milestones you would like to reach?

  • High energy levels
  • Improved stamina
  • Increased healthy weight gains
  • Exercise daily
  • Removing 6cm around my stomach the Healthpointe way

20. What 5 hobbies you would like to pursue?

  • Book writing
  • Regular exercises
  • Gaming for money
  • Traveling for pleasure
  • Watching my baby girl grow in a grown up and successful baby girl as a wealthy full time dad

Just thought I should extend on what one of my earlier update.

I’m sorry.

Thank you.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

~ Musa

You Ever Noticed The Voices In Your Head? 

Success lies outside your comfort zone. 

I don’t know what that means for you, but for me this means that if what I am doing now is not producing the things you I want, then I might need to do the uncomfortable stuff that will give me the results I want. 

Should you want different results then you do the uncomfortable to produce the new results that you want. 

Self talk contributions to your current results. 

It’s the words you tell yourself in your brain that lead to the actions you take. 

And it’s from these actions that produce the results in your life. 

So it hit me that if I use affirmations to influence the actions I take, then I might get the results I’m looking for. 

Affirmations are just words you tell yourself. 

The jive is that most, maybe not you but I am a victim of this, tell ourselves negative things most of the time. 

Things that stop you from change. 

I don’t know why hey…

…maybe it’s from people we associate most with or the TV we watch or the news we read or the Presidents we elect. 

So now we are led to think that the world is negative. 

That’s were things like affirmations come to play. 

They interrupt the negative patterns we play in our minds and inject it with something positive. 

I’m sure you can do your own research about how to structure your affirmations. 

And then you can just repeat the phrase to program yourself into getting what you desire. 

Phrases like the ones Bob Proctor used, author of You Were Born Rich: I am so happy and grateful now that… (this is were you list your desire). 

In a nutshell, positive affirmations help you with moving out of your comfort zone. 

I’m sorry. 

Please forgive me. 

Thank you. 

I love you. 

~ Musa