When Death, Time & Love Write Back 

I don’t like movies that make me cry.

Watching Collateral Beauty starring Will Smith had me squinting my eyes.

collateral_beautyHolding my tears back with my eyelids.

It’s been a while since I’ve watched a movie like that.

Evoking so much emotions then throwing me out of wack after it was done with me.

It was Mr. Smith’s best performance to date.

Enjoyed listening to the story behind the scenes on how he also experienced loss during the making of the movie.

How he just went all out in giving it all through the film.

Can’t wait until it’s out on Blu-ray.

It’s worth the watch.

Please forgive me.

I’m sorry.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

How Was Your Average, Perfect Day?

I read a beautiful blog post, shared by my team leader in the work group Whatsapp (how I despise these groups) titled The Perfect Average Day.

Like the English saying, I walked a mile in her shoes.

Or was it her high heels.

It was relatable.

Well written.

I loved it.

But some of my work colleagues didn’t.

Commenting about how she should use the opportunities within her company to better her living conditions.

To better HER perfect, average day.

Another commented about how there’s nothing special about her day since there are others who go through worse.

Another commented on what kind of response did the writer want? Compassion?

In the back of mind I thought, guys…it’s not a competition.

It’s not about compassion.

Why the hostility?

Is it shame, or embarrassment?

Having some parts of your life displayed like that for all to see, maybe making you feel intimidated?

Or was it because it was a woman who wrote that story?

Did she struck a cord maybe?

This was because I believed she wrote that just to share a part of her life with a receptive audience.

Just because she writes and that’s what writers do.

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No hidden agendas.

Maybe that’s the writer in me talking.

Maybe they are acting this way because it’s one of those photos that don’t make it to their Instagrams.

Because it has no filter.

Too real.

In the world of the Internet, there is no such thing as over sharing.

So instead of pointing out their insecurities, I decided to blog about it here.

I do my best to avoid an argument.

It’s like what this book I’m re-reading says,

“A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.”
How To Make Friends and Influence People. 

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

PS. By the way here’s the link to the blog I’m talking about http://conversationswithaesha.blogspot.co.za/2017/04/the-perfect-average-day.html?m=0

Who You With?

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I didn’t really get the concept of fighting for what you want.

Not consciously.

I’m a lover so this fighting thing is foreign to me.

But when I took a step back to see how things are currently for me.

I see myself wondering further away from, what I thought, was my path to freedom.

A path worth fighting for.

Reminds me of a CD I listened to about by farmer turned multimillionaire business owner about feeding the dream.

Protecting the dream.

There are lots of dream stealers out there.

Yourself included.

So dunking you mind in an environment of people that keep your dream alive, is vital.

Not only for your ultimate goal in life but for your everyday success as well.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

Musa

“You Are The Average Of The Top Five People You Spend Most Of Your Time With.” – Jim Rohn 

I don’t think you should deny yourself the release that comes from venting.

But don’t make it a habit.

Otherwise you will lose a lot of your blog readers that way.

Venting identifies the problem.

So now that you have IDed the problem, what’s the solution?

I read some where that some women vent to be heard, not that they are looking for a solution from you.

I think that’s weird, but then again men have a nothing box.

I think that’s weirder.

I’m going off topic again.

What I’m saying is that the things you put in your head will show in the kind of attitude you have.

If your head is in the gutter, then your attitude will stink.

Your attitude is something that might be hard to monitor with all the junk we are surrounded with.

From external influences like the news, TV and shitty friends and family who do more to pull you down than to lift you up.

The environment you’re in plays an important role in your thinking.

And I think, for the most part, you do have control over your environment.

Thank you.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

~ Musa

“Let the dead bury their own dead…”

Just want to extend on my Tumblr that the saying that goes “it gets easier with time,”… I don’t know about that hey.

The sting is still there, but maybe not as loud as before.

It’s like sand running through your hands.

She was alive…

…Then she wasn’t.

Followed by my friend’s father.

Then my work colleague.

Death was on a roll that’s for sure.

I think I don’t want to admit that it does get better with time.

Maybe because feeling the pain is evidence that it was real.

Her being with us, being with me.

But eventually there’s going to come a time when I will question whether this pain makes sense any more.

Or if it’s denying me the joy I could be experiencing right now.

But not right now.

~ Musa

PS: But one day I will. Life is too short to be living in the past.

How To Write Your 100+ Dreams  List – Part 2

What 5 things you would like to learn in your lifetime?

  • Learning how to swim
  • Learning how to tread water
  • Learning the guitar
  • Learning judo
  • Learning to make an extra $100 per month on the internet
  • Learning how to eat with chopsticks

2. What 5 family experiences you would like to provide for your family?

  • Vacation to table mountain
  • Vacation to Victoria Falls
  • Vacation to God’s Window
  • Vacation to Mauritius
  • Picnic in Pretoria park

3. What 5 things you want to do just once?

  • Hot air balloon ride with Thube
  • Date night with Thube on a hotel balcony overlook Paris Eiffel Tower
  • Sky diving
  • Bungee jumping
  • Walking the length of on the great wall of China

4. What 5 sporting events you would like to go to live?

  • Orlando Pirates soccer match
  • American football game
  • Formula one grand prix with my father in Monte Carlo
  • US open tennis match
  • Jeppe boys rowing race
  • Ultimate Fighting Championship Event 

5. What 5 things you would like to share or teach others?

  • Sharing my life experiences published in book form
  • Sharing 10% of my income to my favourite charity
  • Teaching 5 people how to make R1200 network marketing passive income every month for the rest of their lives
  • Sharing 10% of my income towards credit card surplus
  • Teaching Tumi how to drive

6. What 5 challenges you would like to conquer in your lifetime?

  • Mastering building a R200,000 network marketing business asset that gives me an extra R1,200 per month passive income every month for the rest of my life
  • Having a R10,000 per month passive network marketing income by December 2017
  • Having attracted 20+ business minded and ambitious people to the March 2017 Business Seminar
  • New formal look at work with new formal shoes
  • Driving in an grey Aston Martin DBS

7. What 5 personal characteristics you would like to develop?

  • Being more charismatic
  • More self confidence
  • Having a positive mental attitude
  • Being more enthusiastic
  • Being more money conscious
  • Speaking well of others even when I’m not around them

8. What 5 financial milestones you would like to achieve?

  • Building a R5000 per month passive income generating network marketing business
  • Building a network marketing asset that generates R10000 passive income every month
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R15000 per month passive income
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R20000 per month passive income
  • Building a network marketing business that generates R40000 per month passive income after tax for the rest of my life – talk about having a modest pension in my later years right?

9. What 5 things you would like to do in your community?

  • Sponsor rowing kit for my high school
  • Invest in a Wi-Fi free zone
  • Start a foundation that increases the amount of self-development books in libraries
  • Escalation hotline to speed up services delivery queries
  • Landscaping business that offers free services for selected clients
  • Building a library dedicated to self improvement books under my name 

10. What 5 concerts you would like to attend live?

  • Black coffee
  • DJ Franky
  • Dj Sika
  • Jay Z
  • Opera concert

11. What 5 cities would like to explore?

  • Orlando, USA
  • Port Elizabeth, South Africa
  • London, England
  • Beijing, China
  • Bangkok, Thailand (I think)

12. What 5 things you like to do in your own country?

  • Quad bike riding
  • Drinks at Chaf pozi
  • Shot left to East London
  • Road trip to cape town
  • Gold reef with family

13. What 5 cultural events you would like to attend?

  • Colour run
  • Annual carnival in Brazil
  • Annual jazz carnival at New Orleans
  • Annual cape town carnival
  • Chinese new year celebration

14. What 5 goals achieved in the past and would like to achieve again?

  • Receiving R10000 monthly after tax income
  • Being recognized on a network 21 stage
  • Getting my own passport
  • Travelling internationally on a plane
  • R15000 lobola contribution

15. What 5 things you would like to design?

  • Wooden bench
  • Family home
  • Rocking chair
  • Shopping mall
  • Hotels

16. What 5 businesses you would like to build?

  • Cashflow rich network marketing business
  • Email marketing business
  • Landscaping business
  • Public speaking business
  • Real estate business
  • Futures and Forex trading businesses

17. What 5 things you would like to create?

  • Flourishing new town
  • Network marketing asset portfolio
  • Real estate asset portfolio
  • Stock trading asset portfolio
  • Family park with free WiFi

18. What 5 things you would like to own?

  • Aston Martin DBS
  • Cashflow rich Beach apartments
  • Cashflow rich Townhouses
  • Cashflow rich Block of flats
  • A single level Houghton mansion
  • Cashflow rich network marketing business that generates R120000 p.a.

19. What 5 health milestones you would like to reach?

  • High energy levels
  • Improved stamina
  • Increased healthy weight gains
  • Exercise daily
  • Removing 6cm around my stomach the Healthpointe way

20. What 5 hobbies you would like to pursue?

  • Book writing
  • Regular exercises
  • Gaming for money
  • Traveling for pleasure
  • Watching my baby girl grow in a grown up and successful baby girl as a wealthy full time dad

Just thought I should extend on what one of my earlier update.

I’m sorry.

Thank you.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

~ Musa

Do You Know What Cures Fear? 

There was this obstacle course that my team and I undertook which also included a tightrope.

It’s based in Bryanston, I don’t know if you’ve heard of it.

But I won’t mention it by name because my colleague broke her foot during one of the jumps there. And that wasn’t cool.

Sure granted the jump was not exactly according to the facilitor’s guidelines but family first, you know?

Anyways, you climbed up these steps to reach the beginning of the tightrope and below was the safety net, and on the other end are steps you can use to climb down once you have made it to the other side.

It’s shit scary being up there.

The heart starts beating faster once you let go of the balcony located at the beginning of the obstacle to walk the rope.

It was me, the rope and the safety net below.

The unknown is scary at the beginning.

Letting go of what you know is even scarier.

I think that is why your why is important.

The reason why you are doing it.

Whether it’s worth risking it all.

If you don’t have that then you won’t let go of the old in the pursuit of the new.

It’s like what Doug Wead Skip Ross said: action cures fear.

If the why is clear, the how is easy.Keith Abraham

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa