You Are What You Accept

4694342-Jay-Z-Quote-Don-t-ever-go-with-the-flow-Be-the-flowYou teach people how you would like to be treated, by how you react to what they say or do.

Either by acceptance of what they do to you or by you reprimanding them.

To correct someone on how you would like to be treated, I believe, comes from raising your standards.

Low standards allows them to continue “taking advantage” of you, while raising them educates them on how you would like to be treated.

It takes courage to put yourself first.

It takes courage futhi to “equip” people on how you like to be treated, in order for them to bring out the best in you.

It’s a win-win.

Reminds me of how I cringe when people organize events at the last minute and expect me to participate.

9 times out of 10 I don’t. If I do, it is with a closed heart.

Give me time to think it over in my mind as a typical melancholy. Don’t pull a sanguine move on me and expect to me to be jolly about it.

But then again I’m an introvert, so being “out there” drains my energy, at times.

I’m just at a point in my life, with all that’s happening, where I cannot “go with the flow” that goes against my core values.

Living a lie is tiring.

There is power outside your comfort zone.

~ Musa

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Learn From the Teachers In Your Life

So my colleague be pissing the hell out of me right now. Yoda_TPM_RotS

Think it’s because his personality is mostly different from mine.

There is a lesson in there though.

I can’t really put my finger on it.

Or maybe I just don’t want to.

And uncovering that will bring to light something about me, that I can use for selfish reasons.

By that I mean for my personal development.

I feel that if I have my stuff inside is in order, then I can produe positive results.

So the thing that’s upsetting me about the guy is something that I’m not impressed about kimi.

It’s not about him.

Once I learn to own it then “Mr. Colleague” wouldn’t irk me as much.

It’s a win-win.

I think some people are out there in our lives to help us become better people.

People in our lives that teach us life lessons.

As annoying as those lessons are.

They need to be learned.

~ Musa

Looking Outside So To Change Your Insides

Yazi, it’s funny how life is.

How we get caught in just running through the emotions.

Existing versus Living.

That’s what you get, I guess, for living your life without purpose.

Waking up dreading the morning.

Instead of jumping out with excitement.

Wow.

Excitement.

Wouldn’t that be a nice emotion to wake up to?

Solution:

Turn your focus outward.

Make it about them.

If you make other people feel good, you in turn feel good.

See this 46min Simon Sinek talk to see why.

There is happiness in giving without expecting anything in return.897426

Because bottomline we are are chasing things.

But those “things” we are chasing are actually feelings.

How that particular achievement will make you feel once you get it.

It’s like what this book I’m reading says, we are here to help each other.

And that’s what I believe is the cure to depression.

I’m no Dr but just speaking from my experience.

A belief echoed by The Greatest Miracle In The World book by Og Mandino.

~ Musa

A Business Like No Other…

new-mlm-companiesI think network marketing levels the playing field.

I could be wrong, it’s just my observation.

From my limited observation, businesses are handed over from generation to generation.

The only legacy I’ve seen being left the masses is poverty.

Some families are brought up with the option of aspiring to be business owner, while other families are sold the idea of becoming employees or self employed.

Asking the government to fix this in the form of land distribution, for instance, is as effective as the removal of our now current President from office.

But network marketing nullifies this dependent mindset.

The right one also offers you training and mentorship on how to succeed by also developing a business owner mindset.

But the best ones allow for your network marketing business to be passed on from generation to generation, just like these families I spoke of earlier.

With the right training to develop your skills, I believe anyone can succeed in what they put their minds to.

Multi level marketing included.

One of the hiccups I have with conventional business is the start up capital, amongst other uncertainties.

But obviously if you are committed enough and want it badly enough then you can find solutions around that.

I guess one chooses ones battles.

With me preferring minimum start up capital.

Minimal operational costs.

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With some part time but consistent work ethic, the results are predictable.

Results that can supplement my current salary.

Results that can be on par with my current salary.

Results that can eclipse my current salary.

A business like no other.

Look as a disclaimer, anything legit that allows you to make extra income is great.

Be it MLMs or another job or part time gig or strip joints.

I’m just talking about what I’m exposed to.

Do you due dilengece.

This working you way up to your salary month end only to start at zero the following month, is insane.

But most of us are doing it so it’s ok right?

I don’t think so.

~ Musa

The Innovator

Innovation-ImageI just found this interesting. Ayanda got me fascinated with these profiling websites.

It got me thinking about what makes me tick.

The below is in accordance to my personality in relation to my view of internet security.

Shoot…by the way:

Happy New Year (never too late)

You are a Calm and Curious Achiever

  • You are hardworking, inventive, calm and curious.
  • You take responsibility, are reliable, vigilant and practice self-control.
  • You appreciate creativity and are quick to learn new things.
  • If you are interested in technology, you are likely to be an early adopter.
  • You are well in control of your emotions and don’t get upset easily, making it easier for you to deal with stressful situations.

What does this mean for your online safety?

  • You have a tendency to think carefully before acting, which makes you naturally cautious when navigating cyberspace i.e. “Thinking before you Click”.
  • You’re more likely to be proactive about applying appropriate security controls.
  • In extreme cases, your high conscientiousness may make you vulnerable to well executed “social engineering” attacks that impersonate people with authority.
  • You try out new technologies and are quick to understand how these work.
  • You are likely to be more aware than the average person about the threats and risks associated with using these.
  • Your emotional stability allows you to keep a level head, even when under pressure or when dealing with a potential cyber threat. So-called people-hackers use psychological tricks to trigger your emotions (also called social engineering techniques).
  • Your ability to keep calm and control your emotions is a great tool to defend yourself from any of these attacks.

Be aware of:

  • Attacks that impersonate authority figures or being caught out while you are working too hard.
  • When you are trying out something new, make it a rule to learn about the potential risks and how to protect yourself; apply minimum security controls such as anti-virus, encryption and good, strong passwords.
  • Don’t trust any unsolicited email messages or phone calls, especially if it triggers an emotion and always think twice before you click.

 

Thought we should know more about me together see?

~ Musa

Hell Is An Experience

Carracci-PurgatoryI’m thinking that sometimes we need to pray when things are going right too.

Like right now, as I’m thankful to God that my little girl is healthy and getting stronger by the day.

Almost a month ago she was in hospital being treated for the pneumonia she picked up at creche we think.

It’s a public hospital that means we were kicked out around 7pm and allowed in back in at 7am.

It felt shitty leaving her behind, oxygen mask on, drip in arm, with her feeling sickly.

There was no better time to go to God with her paining like she was.

So, eventually, when the weight of it all brought me to my knees, I started praying.

Not a lofty prayer but a detailed, heartfelt prayer of gratitude.

Being thankful of what I already have and being thankful of what I wanted to see, in terms of a healthy baby that’s being discharged and back home with us.

And I continued spending most of my day being grateful of that truth.

My truth.

A prayer God answered.

Remembering Her in the bad times only to forget or take Her for granted in the good times.

Beka manje, I’m spending my off day with my Beasty and I’m not thanking God for that.

While in this physical life I see hell and heaven as an experience.

Not a destination.

And the further away from God the closer I am to experiencing situations that feel hellish.

But with continuous association and communication with Her I will be guided out of those hell experiences into heavenly ones.

Like the one I’m having now.

And I’m grateful for them.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

The Fixer

B33rFzqCYAIREuFSometimes when the road ahead looks very dark, anxiety levels go up.

That’s when I come to you God to help shed some light.

But if the road I’m taking vele has no street lights then I’m relieved knowing that you are by my side.

I’m taking this knee with this post because I’m also in dire need so my ancestors need to be also involved in this prayer.

Because without them I would be here, and without You they wouldn’t have been.

I light my candles and incense with this update in gratitude of what I already have.

Thank you for our business.

Thank you for our jobs.

Thank you for the shelter you are providing us.

Thank you for the water and lights that we sometimes take for granted.

Thank you for the food we eat.

Our perfect health and the rich relationships we have.

Thank you for the clothes on our backs.

And the large amounts of income that come to us through various sources, with increasing frequency.

All praise goes to you God.

I am bound to make flops along the way.

I just want to thank you for softening the falls.

Thank you for giving me the courage to fail forward.

Because there is no learning without falling. And I need to learn so I can grow to be my better self.

Continue guiding us through to our better self.

Yours in gratitude,

Amen