Who Have You Equipped Today?

So today is yet another day…oh yeah I now remember what I wanted to blog about.

Equipping was a word Dr J. Maxwell taught me in his book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You.

I didn’t realize the different meaning of the word until he explained it to me.

I won’t be able to re-explain it exactly the way he did, but I’ll try.

Maxwell wrote about how he taught the staff, at his favorite restaurant, how he would like to be served.

It made sense.

I mean, if you value my business, as a patron, then you need to serve me the way I like. So that I can keep me as a customer.

How he would like to be treated from the moment he enters the restaurant, how things should be laid out for him during his stay, all the way up until he leaves.

Maxwell equipped them on how they can better keep him as a customer.

It’s a win-win situation, like Dr. S. Covey described in The 7 Steps to Highly Effective People.

Maxwell has a pleasant experience being services and they get to keep this internationally influential customer under their belt.

I decided to try this “equipping” idea on a colleague.

Integrity is one of my highest values, so when I loan you money and you say you will pay me back tomorrow, only for you to come up with a story when tomorrow comes, it violates one of my highest values.

It’s an insult to me.

And I don’t like to be disrespected.

Respect being another of my other top values.

So I gave it a shot.

My colleague asked for money from me again, and said he will pay me back at theend of our shift.

The time came when the reimbursement was due, and like a creature of habit, he asked if he can pay me tomorrow.

I replied that I could wait for tomorrow.

It caught him by surprise, usually I just say yes and allow people like him to walk all over me.

I didn’t feel like being a doormat that day.

I asked if I heard him right when he said he was going to pay me back at the end of our shift.

He said he did. I then asked what happened.

An question he couldn’t answer.

He proceeded gearing his mind and actions towards paying me back, like he said.

The way he threw the money back in my hands, was not with the same grace I loaned him with.

Which was fine, because it sets up one for two possible future scenarios:

  1. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he just won’t.
  2. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he knows he would need to deliver on time.

He has been equipped.

He might try me a few more times so he can try his luck.

I would then need to be consistent with my equipping him.

It puts me in a place of power and control. I hate being reactive.

How about you?

~ Musa

What Peak Performers Do In The Morning That You Might Not Be Doing…

The way I’m driving what little traffic I have to his YouTube page, one might think he’s paying me to do it.

I don’t know much about Ed Mylett.

But of what little I know, was shared on an interview I stumbled over, that you can access through one of my posts here.

~ Musa

Replace Your S** t Habits With Good Ones

I kept on seeing and hearing the name Simon Sinek being projected in my head.

Simon Sinek.

As if stuck in the frontal lobe of my brain.

Simon Sinek.

All this, haunting, while trying to sleep.

So here I am, writing about him.

I don’t know much about him.

He was first brought to my attention by a business partner who has a background in medicine.

Google Sinek.

From the little I know of him is that he’s a speaker.

He speaks about most about leadership. On what defines a leader and what drives her. Reasons why they are true leaders. Amongst other things.

He’s available on different social media sites, I also follow him on Twitter and IG.

He’s an author as well, he wrote Start With Why.

And there are lots of videos on the ‘Tube that have he’s talks.

I think there’s a vid of one of his talks I posted in one of my blogs that I thought was awesome.

There’s a bias that comes with being a leader that I want to take advantage of.

The monetary benefits of being paid to solve problems being one of them.

It’s as if followers create problems while leaders get paid to solve them.

So I’ve been listening to some of his audios as well. Him, John Maxwell and Gary Vaynerchuk are the 3 guys I’ve been filling my head with of late.

And Eric Thomas. #TGIM

I guess I can be obsessed with certain things in my life, such as my personal development.

If I don’t invest the time for it, noone else will.

Then I will just be like the rest of them, blaming my job or spouse or community or the government or the gods for my current, undesirable situations.

Not realising that the true problem here is me.

I fix me, all else gets fixed.

It’s an inside job.

~ Musa

“Your Attitude…Will Determine Your Altitude.”

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Talk about duplicating poor performance.

If you have people that follow you, they are sure to duplicate what you do…

…less what you say.

Just thinking nje from what I’ve observed with my team at work of late.

Original team leader is currently not available, so he left the team in the hands of the stand in team leader. A new member who just recently joined the team.

But stand in is not as thorough as the “original” team leader.

Stand in team leader is now on sick leave, leaving second in charge to attend to team queries.

2IC is also dropping the ball when it comes to taking care of those in his charge.

I fail to understand why he is duplicating the efforts of the lazy leader instead of the action-oriented leader, who manages to keep this team on the straight and narrow month in and month out.

Now the team is despondent.

Having to rely on other team leaders, some leaders not as willing to serve as you might expect, for management level queries.

With the customer obviously taking the hit due to a lack of teamwork.

Broken systems bleeds an organization out of money due to poor customer service.

And I think when you shortcut your responsibilities, you shortcut your success in other area of your life as well.

Because the same attitude you have in one area of your life, will affect other areas also.

And your attitude determines your level of success.

You need to be consistent in all areas of your life, that way it won’t feel like a tag of war when it comes to wanting to achieve your goals. One step forward but taking 2 steps back kinda thing.

A very uncomfortable thing to strive for, especially on a daily basis.

But that’s the thing.

Success is found outside your comfort zone.

And a day spent being comfortable, is a day spent being lazy.

It’s a day spent growing backwards.

~ Musa

Winnie Madikizela-Mandela (1936-2018)

95308433f3394a58b30d64e0c82c99aeIt’s a sad day today with us laying to rest Winnie Madikizela-Mandela.

It was a huge funeral procession, which almost worthy to the individual.

Someone praised so much in death but wasn’t a celebrated in life.

But such is the way of the world.

One could go as far as saying that she kept former president Nelson’s name alive during his 27 year incarceration.

Keeping him relevant, inspiring artist’s like the late Brenda Fassie to sing songs about him.

At time that when the streets where on fire.

Literally.

The aftermath being relived in the minds of our parents and grandparents.

Influencing how we are raised.

In this “democratic” Republic.

May her soul rest in peace.

My Leader.

“When the Real Leader Speaks, People Listen”

I got my hands on John Mawell’s book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.

While reading Chapter 5 – The Law of E. F. HuttonWhen the Real Leader Speaks, People Listen I had a real world experience of  how I can apply it.

Thube invited her niece to the easter egg hunt that was hosted by my cousin.

So in the car we went.

Myself, Thube, Omu our first born and Thube’s niece.

She’s a toddler of around 5 years of age I believe.

A handful, like most toddlers but I just seem unable to communicate with her.

I tried.

It falls on death ears leaving me frustrated when what I request from her does not happen.

Welcome to parenthood right?

So I took a page from The Law of E. F. Hutton.41M1oUaz1ZL._SX329_BO1,204,203,200_

Sometimes, there is someone who has more influence than you.

Sometimes, when you think you have the role of the leader, the people in your charge at that moment might be inclined to be led by someone else.

Even if you are the one who is holding the title or the position of a leader.

So this time around I wanted to give it a go.

The little princess rolled down her window when she got in the backseat. When we hit the highway the most irritating sound came from that window.

From the wind outside coming through while driving.

So instead of me going at it with the sweetest voice my baritone can master, asking this little precious to close the window so I can put the aircon on for her, I asked the real leader.

Thube.

“Thube, please ask the little pumpkin to close the window for me,” I requested.

The message was relayed and, lo and behold, the little pumpkin willingly closed the window for us!

Something I would have struggled with if I had when at it my way.

Nothing groundbreaking to you I’m sure.

But to me, it really cemented the law.

Really interested in uncovering the laws that I can put in to play to get this leadership gig going.

~ Musa

“The Same Wind Blows On Us All…”

I just recently started going over what it takes to be a leader.

Through the people I’ve hung out with and the books I’ve read, the YouTube videos I’ve watched, one thing is certain:

There are things you have to deny yourself in order for you to meet some of what it takes to become a leader.

One of them being having to deny yourself the “relief” of taking 100% responsibility of everything in your life.photo84

Most of us, including myself, take the back seat and let life have its way with us.

Always reacting to it. Instead of responding to it.

We’ve become too lazy to think for ourselves. Allowing others to think for us.

And then wonder why we are in the current situation we are in. Or worse yet, blaming others as the reason why we are where we are, right now.

Only to call those that are making it out there as the lucky ones.

That one concept alone – taking 100% ownership of every single thing in your life – (meaning the good and the bad) will begin to move you towards the things you really want in your life.

It might not happen overnight, but this new direction you will be taking will eventually lead you to your goal.

“Here’s a philosophy that helped change my life. It’s not what happens that determines your life’s future. It’s what you do about what happens. 

All of us are in like a little sailboat, and it’s not the blowing of the wind that determines your destination. It’s the set of the sail. So jot this phrase down. It’s one of the best to understand. 

The same wind blows on us all. The wind of disaster, the wind of opportunity, the wind of change, the wind when it’s upside down, the wind when it’s favorable and unfavorable. 

The same wind blows on us all. The economic wind, the social wind, the political wind. The same wind blows on everybody.  The difference in where you arrive in one year, three years, five years, the difference in arrival is not the blowing of the wind but the set of the sail.”

– Jim Rohn of JimRohn.com

You do have a goal right?

One of the things that lead to depression is not having a goal to wake up to.

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale said it is his book The Power of Positive Thinking:

Feeling listlesswrite a list.” 

~ Musa