Sometimes the Hardest Things in Life are the Most Simple to Change

@TheUltimateMuse: I didn’t fail the test. I just found 100 ways to do it wrong.
– Benjamin Franklin

So I guess I’m finding ways that don’t work for me with the crappy sales week I had.

Maybe that’s a good thing.

That I suck in sales?

…Nah man I guess you can’t be doing the same things and expecting different results.

And boy have I NOT been getting the results I’ve been wanting lately hey.

Aint that some shit.

…I guess it’s not rocket since after all.

If you want different results, take different actions.

Until you get the right results from these different actions…

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It’s All In The Mind

You know, I did have a tough day today.

Usually I can keep it masked, but today the agony showed.

I was in what Tony Robbins calls a ‘disappointed state’

Something I promised my sales coach I will never be in because sales is a mental game.

Even if I’m on zero sales even after most of my day is spent, things will turn around…but only if I change and control my thoughts.

And guess what, after consulting with the right people AND never feeling sorry for myself, I eventually pulled through and broke through my mental barrier.

Hence me going home now with one sale instead of a doughnut.

The unexpected coaching and complements was a nice touch.

I’m deeply grateful.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

Change the Way You Look at Things & Things You Look at Change

“When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make a lemonade”
~ Dale Carnegie,
author of “How to Make Friends and Influence People”

Sometimes when things happen, at first look like things aren’t going your way.

Only to find, in retrospect, that “things” were really pushing you in the direction of what you want and where you want to be.

For example:

The word is that BlackBerry will be doing away with their BlackBerry Internet Service (BIS) which allows for unlimited internet downloads, unlimited internet access and social networking and emailing at a charge of R59 per month (about $6.46c per month).

Unlike America we South Africans, for the most part, do not have free internet.

Data bundles need to be bought and once they are done, you’re done.

So just imagine, with the amount of time you spend downloading apps and surfing the net and social networking, how much do you think you will send per month, at a charge of let’s say $1 per 1 MegaByte?

I guess one good thing that will come out of this would be longer BlackBerry battery life, due to the lack of usage of course.

I thought to myself, after reading the breathtaking headline (without reading the actually story mind you)*, that I might as well get myself an iPhone, since BlackBerry is doing away with BIS.

Truth be told it’s the latest BlackBerry devices (BlackBerry 10) that do not cater for BIS, anything prior does. So all is not lost ☺

And if I’m going to be paying for my data services I might as well be paying for something worth my money.

Sorry RIM, I mean BlackBerry… whatever you go by these days.

But Apple so far has nicer features than you & the only thing that was keeping me on board – like most users in other African countries & India I hear – was the BIS…. Short on BlackBerry anyone?

That’s when I stopped and said, “Wait a minute. I’ve always also wanted to get myself an iPhone, maybe this was the Universe’s way of pushing me towards getting one?”

One of the ways you can attract the things faster in your life is by imagining, with as much vivid detail as possible, how happy and excited and relieved you will feel once you have the thing you want in your possession.

Something that Dr. Joe Vitale spoke about which you can read more about when you go to this previous post.

When you act as if, like in the example of “dressing for your next promotion,” you activate a law of nature known as the Law of Attraction which pulls in opportunities for you to take action on.

But you need to act like you already HAVE what you want, sincerely and repeatedly, in order for the Law to work.

The action that will lead to you receiving the results YOU want, which in the above example happens to be a promotion.

Be creative and use every opportunity you can to speak and think and act as if the thing you most desire is already in your possession.

In truth you need to find reasons to feel good, if not to feel an improved feeling, not for the sake of goal achieving – but for the sake of feeling good.

Solutions and opportunities come to you when you are seeking an improved feeling than when you whine about how awful things are for you.

As truthfully as that may be for you currently, nothing improves until YOU improve.

Which is what you want at the end of the day right?

For things to get better?

It’s an inside job.

You need to work for things to work for you.

Like the title of one of Neale Donald Walsch’s books, When Everything Changes Change Everything.

With that said…Come to papa you wonderful iPhone you!!!

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

PS: * Links to “BlackBerry Cuts BIS” article .

PPS: Always find a way, in fact practice it often enough until it becomes a habit, to look for the good in all difficulties.

Find a reason on how you could benefit from it all.

Find the silver lining – that way the sun will always be shining for you while everything else around you seems is gloomy.

Persist Until You Succeed By Brian Tracy

Persist Until You Succeed
By Brian Tracy

The most important single quality of success is self-discipline. Self-discipline is having the ability within yourself, based on your strength of character and willpower, to do what you should do when you should do it, whether you feel like it or not. Character is the ability to follow through on a resolution after the enthusiasm with which the resolution was made has passed.

Persistence is Self-Discipline in Action

Perhaps the greatest display of self-discipline is persisting when the going gets tough. Persistence is self-discipline in action. Persistence is the great measure of individual human character. Your persistence is, in fact, the true measure of your belief in yourself and your ability to succeed. Each time that you persist in the face of adversity and disappointment, you build the habit of persistence. You build pride, power, and self-esteem in your character and your personality. You become stronger and more resolute. By persisting, you become more self-disciplined. You develop within yourself the iron quality of success, the one quality that will carry you forward and over any obstacle that life can throw in your path.

Get Going and Keep Going

Orison Swett Marden wrote in his book, “There are two essential requirements for success. The first is ‘go-at-it-iveness’ and the second is ‘stick-to-it-iveness’” Referring to the quality of persistence he wrote, “There is no failure for the man who realizes his power, who never knows when he is beaten; there is no failure for the determined endeavor, the conquerable will. There is no failure for the man who gets up every time he falls, who rebounds like a rubber ball, who persists when everyone else gives up, who pushes on when everyone else turns back.”

Persistence is Your Greatest Asset

Perhaps your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay at a task longer than anyone else. B.C. Forbes, who founded Forbes magazine and built it into a major publication during the darkest days of the Depression, wrote, “History has demonstrated that the most notable winners usually encountered heartbreaking obstacles before they triumphed. They won because they refused to become discouraged by their defeat.”

Adversity is What Tests Us

Throughout history, great thinkers have reflected on this paradox and have concluded that adversity is the test that you must pass on the path to accomplishing anything worthwhile. Herodotus, the Greek philosopher, said, “Adversity has the effect of drawing out strength and qualities of a man that would have lain dormant in its absence.” The very best qualities of strength, courage, character, and persistence are brought out in you when you face your greatest challenges and when you respond to them positively and constructively.

Action Exercise

Your greatest successes almost invariably come one step beyond your greatest failures, when everything inside you says quit. Think of failures in terms of how you can make them successes.

This was a Brian Tracy article, Click Here for more on Brian Tracy

Failure Is A By-Product Of Success, And Vice Versa

I love the education system *cough* what I believe the system needs to improve on is how it programmes the mind of the learner into fearing failure, believing that coming second best is unacceptable and that being “the 1st loser” – as my high school rowing coach would put it – was to be shunned upon.

Yes, it did drive me to excel in a variety of things like going through my entire under 15 rowing season, with my crew, as undefeated South African Champions – even in our aging, wooden rowing boat (Excalibur) racing against the fibre glass versions that the other private schools were using.
That was how I feared failing.

I feared failing so much that I was running away from it. And when it finally did catch up to me, it was a horrific experience filled with negative self talk, self disgust, insecurities, and all the other intelligent, sophisticated words society has for defining feelings one should have when he has become a failure.

This fearing to fail principle, taught to during my years at school, was something I successful took with me through my earlier working life, with a certificate (in the form of my matric certificate) to prove how well equipped I was thanks to the school system…God bless them.

Now I was programmed to joyfully seek a “safe and secure” job successfully making the rich (wo) men richer. As I continue on working harder and harder at suppressing my dreams because doing anything else like taking the risk and dedicating my life to something I was passionate about, might subject me to the something I was taught to fear: the fear of failure.

And failing is not an option, I hear my high school rowing coach say, because people would see me for who I am…a failure. And the way I hold other people’s view of me above my view of myself, disappointing them will make me less of a person.

I might not have been saying this out loud but this was, after reflecting on what is was that was holding me back, it was something I had accepted at an unconscious level.

It is my unconscious beliefs that create my reality.

Yet failure is only a part of succeeding.

School is like taking natural risk takers and brain washing them into limiting their unlimited potential.

Failure is a jus t feedback of the wrong path to success that was taken, all that needs to happen is to take corrective measure to improve the plan and march forth to success.

Failure is not to be feared but expected, especially when one wants to succeed in life.

That’s how we learn in life.

How can you expect to learn if you don’t learn from your mistakes & failures.

I could say, the “secret” to success is failure.

The only time I was able to go to the next step was through learning from what life was teaching me, hearing what life was telling me through my supposed failure.

Even as a kid the only way I got to learn was through falling from my bike.

After falling I didn’t throw the bike in the bin, but got up and tried again, and again, and again, until I had myself riding like the other kids.

Persist in improving from your temporary failures in order for you to succeed, because most don’t know that “every failure comes with it a seed of an equivalent success.”

(c) Musawenkosi Tshoaele, 2010. All rights reserved