It Was That Fucken Forehead of Yours

Did You Know:
Hydrocephalus – Also called: water on the brain
A build-up of fluid in the cavities deep within the brain.
 
The extra fluid puts pressure on the brain and can cause brain damage.
It’s most common in infants and older adults.
 
Hydrocephalus is characterised by head enlargement in infants.
 
Adults and older children experience headache, impaired vision, cognitive difficulties, loss of coordination and incontinence.
 
Treatment is often a tube (shunt) inserted surgically into a ventricle to drain excess fluid.

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Maybe a week.

Or a couple of days without speaking.

But never more than a month.

Shit doesn’t feel normal.

I think I’m losing my mind.

Fuck.

But she was in tears.

She saw how withdrawn I’ve become.

I blamed her but honestly, I was to blame.

It had nothing to do with her, I was just thinking about myself.

Because I’m greedy.

But it felt good, what was I supposed to do.

It went from 0 to 100 quick.

That shit took off like a runaway slave.Siwa.jpg

And then, and then she asked, “are you going to call me back again right?”

“Like Fuck yeah!”

That’s what I really wanted to say.

But I ended up saying,

“I’ll try.”

“Maybe.”

“I’ll think about it.”

And she would reply, “Okay then, so I’ll hear from you soon then. Bye.”

I fucken hated falling for her.

…I can see why he married you.

~ Musa

“The Older You Get, The More Quiet You Become.”

Silence of the LambsI was thinking to myself the other day that when you live long enough, you end up being a hypocrite.

You end up contradicting yourself.

I’ve been seeing this from those Facebook memories feature I have on my FB page.

What I thought or believed in before, is not what I believe in now.

Truth is ever changing.

That’s why the Truth will forever be constant.

Because at its core the Truth is ever changing, making it valid at that point in time.

For it, Truth, to only change moments later.

So what you thought was true when you were single, is not so true when you are married, for example.

This makes it very difficult for me to criticize people based on their status updates on social media.

Especially when I really, really want to make a 2 cent comment.

A 2 cent comment that usually contradicts all the positive things I keep publishing here.

Only for me to find myself in the same situation in life somewhere down the line.

Life will humble you.

I don’t believe you should be gullible to the extent that you accept everything.

But have an open mind.

“The mind is like a parachute… It only works if we keep it open.”

~ Musa

Front Toward Enemy

24-Lewis-tells-Frank-to-cut-the-white-wire-and-it-works-1080x675So I had an enlightening morning power meeting with my two year old daughter, on the morning drive to daycare.

She didn’t flat out laugh at my face when I told her that I’m going to try taking a break from Facebook for a while.

But she did look at me, then looked out the window, mumbling something inaudible.

Hate it when she sideways cusses me.

Anyway, this idea was from a Reader’s Digest article that said FaceBook is not good for your mental health.

I think spending anytime on screens for prolonged periods, should affect you some how.

But more so on your handheld device.

Due to how it increases your anxiety levels, it’s no wonder you find it hard to sleep.

Or do you strain your mind and body with enough anxiety simulation that you eventually pass out due to exhaustion?

I’ve dissed women many times for their love of talking.

But that is one of their greatest assets.

Men don’t talk much, especially when we are hurting.

Keeping all that pain inside eventually spills out in ugly ways, sometimes.

But talking about your feelings as a man is a sign of weakness you see? Very feminine.

I guess that’s why most of the gays I know as so successful in life.

Those guys talk hey?

It’s as if talking is a success principle.

Guys should talk about their feelings more. But for some death is more preferable, since it’s things like these that lead to depression.

Left untreated then you will have people like me using you to promote mental health awareness.

It made me think about we are walking around with Claymore mines in our pockets, in the form of cellphones…

~ Musa

Your Growth Is Limited By Your Environment

My latest favorite content marketing guy said I should document my life regularly.

So here I am, doing just that.

Imitate successful people long enough and you too will be successful.

Long enough and consistently enough.

So there was something a friend of mine wrote…

… I can’t say we’re friends, I mean I never met the guy but I do enjoy his tweets.

Anyways, the guy wasn’t feeling well, I mean we are human, and he posted how he had a bad feeling about today.

This was something which was out of character of him.

But then again, like the rest of us, he spends like 2% of his life on social media so what do I know.

Nonetherless we are what we think.

As a man thinketh, so shall he be.

So I politely asked he stop with his sh** and focus on willing the day into a great one.

But I did that mostly for selfish reasons.

I can’t be scrolling through my Twitter timeline with such negativity.

Like, I’m the most negative person I know.

That’s why I need this blog, YouTube videos, and other motivational just to make it through the day.

So I need those I follow to inspire me with every swipe on my phone.

To surround myself with positive shandis that will outweigh the negative, so that I can attract more people and things to be grateful for.

I think that’s why I’ve unfriended so many on Facebook and unfollowed on IG and Twitter.

Be picky about the people or things you expose your mind to. They unconsciously affect the life you live and the things you have in your life.

~ Musa

I Don’t Want To Be An Entrepreneur

That N word is such a burden.

It’s a cute thing to add on my social media bio that: “I’m an Entrepreneur.”

But truth of the matter is I’m on my PlayStation, while posting such on my Twitter page.

Have people thinking Musa is on “the grind.”

Kanti kuphi lapho…

Trying to promote an illusion on FaceBook, having people into thinking that you’ve got game…sh** like that will catch up to you.

Yes, I was on that stock market trading tip then the internet marketing grind. After that then it’s was the full time direct sales gig and what else…oh yeah, network marketing.

And in between that stuff, it was a 9-5.

It’s just there’s so much respect that I have for people who really run their business. Small business that they didn’t inherent. That seeing people claiming what they aren’t irks me.

It’s as if they are disrespecting the people who really are.

The businesswomen & businessmen who make those hard decisions like:

The Dream or the relationship.

Pay rent or the staff.

Full 9 hours sleep of guaranteed monthly salary or those sleepless nights not knowing whether the client will pay up on not.

People, a small percentage, really hustle out there hey?

Too busy to be posting motivational memes every 3 minutes on IG.

Success is boring.

Success is slow.

Success is consistency.

Success is long-term.

Success is worth it.

Social media allows you to post things that aren’t true.

But like all things, the truth shall out.

Live an honest life bud.

My take…I don’t want to be getting my money from only one income source.

I don’t think that makes me an entrepreneur. Or does it?

Coz that’s my endgame…

…hold up come I google.

Entrepreneur…

a person who sets up a business or businesses, taking on financial risks in the hope of profit.
“many entrepreneurs see potential in this market”

synonyms: businessman, businesswoman, business person, business executive, enterpriser, speculator, tycoon, magnate; More

  • a promoter in the entertainment industry.

    “the music entrepreneur pulled back from financing a screenplay Hopper had written”

Shoot, then that means anyone can be an entrepreneur.

But those that do the work become successful entrepreneurs… Eventually.

It compounds.

Needed to put that disclaimer there.

And that’s the rub, being successful.

You need to work.

Taking the hits of becoming good at your niche, there’s no smooth sailing in this game.

Being embrassed for a few years that will set you up for life.

You either keep getting knocked around & being made someone’s bitch at your job or learn how to make something of your life.

Even Thokozane outlined on a tweet I retweeted #NoExcuses.

You need courage & mentoring if you are looking for additional sources of income that will eventually free you from a job.

Either that or keep complaining about your BS job.

You are worth more than than s*** job you are 10 seconds away from being fired from.

You weren’t raised to be someone’s bitch.

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Don’t be an entrepreneur.

Be a successful one.

No matter how long it takes.

Or die trying.

I don’t want to be an entrepreneur. But I want to be a hustler. For my family but more importantly for my well-being.

Go to where you are valued. If that means getting a job then go for it.

Financially it doesn’t make sense to me to only rely on one source of income.

That’s financial suicide.

~ Musa

What Are the Lyrics to Your Song?

It’s 7:39pm on my way back from work.

I’m in a taxi, with the passenger next to me probably reading what I’m typing here on my cell.

Just realized I need to post something for my WordPress blog.

Not sure what exactly.

But I’m figuring I should update on what’s been on my mind lately.

And that’s been bliss.

In the sense of overcoming the fear of doing what I love.

Instead of being caught up with what the system asks of me to “survive” within the monetary system.

I’ve been reading a lot of Dr. Wayne Dyer’s updates on Facebook.

And he’s all about purpose.

My favorite quote from him is:

“Never die with your music still in you.”

About how the wealthiest piece of land in the planet is the graveyard, with a lot of people dying with their dreams…desires…what they were REALLY good at not having been fulfilled.

So what will happen, if you did?

If you took the steps, step by step, that led you to producing or creating or designing your inner “song?”

Until one day, the world hears your “song,”

What you are really about,

Who you really are?

…Bliss.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

The Liebster Blog Award

What is a Liebster Blog Award?

First of all I would like to thank Khushbo over @ lifealight for the Liebster Blog Award!

Think of a Liebster Blog Award like being tagged on let’s say Facebook.

And once you get tagged and complete the Liebster Blog Award Rules then you tag someone else.

When you tag someone, this is known as giving that person an award or, just like Kushbo did to me, a nomination.

So the only prize you win from what I could tell is fellow blogger recognition.

Expanding your praise and appreciation for blogs you love and want to share with others.

Who started it?

Your guess is as good as mine.

A lot of pages claim that it was started by someone from Germany.

Probably since “Liebster” is German for “Dearest” amonst other definitions.

What’s the rules?

#1. Post 11 things about yourself.

#2. Answer the questions given to you by the nominator.

#3. Nominate 11 blogs (newer, up and coming blogs, with less than (or thereabouts) 200 followers) and inform them.

#4. Compose 11 new questions for your nominees.

#5. And don’t forget to post of the Liebster Award Badge to your page (grab it from the internet)

11 Random Facts About Musawenkosi:

#1. I have an awesome baby sister.

#2. I was born in 1984.

#3. I rate movie trailers better than the actual movie.

#4. SpongeBob is the best cartoon ever.

#5. I prefer beef or steak over chicken.

#6. I still live with my mom.

#7. I don’t think marriage is for all of us.

#8. I don’t like raisins in my chocolate anything.

#9. I love food more than sex.

#10. Scary movies make me scared because they are scary.

#11. The majority of my blogs & article were written on my BlackBerry.

11 Questions from Nominator:

#1. If you were awarded one wish, what would you ask for? (Anything.)

Answer: For my baby sister to be a multi billionaire!

#2. Do you have a hobby? What is it?

Answer: Writing!

#3. What made you want to write a blog?

Answer: To have a place where I can share the self help tips I’ve come across with others.

#4. If you had the power to change only ONE of these three things which would you change? (Poverty, Racism, War)

Answer: Poverty

#5. If you could write a book would it be Fiction, Science Fiction, a True Story or Philosophy?

Answer: a True Story fictional science fiction philosophy!

#6. What was an embarrassing moment in your life?

Answer: When I ran and slipped on the kitchen floor in front of my aunt. Still working on getting back my street cred till now!

#7. Who is the most inspirational person in your life?

Answer: My cousin, Nombali Ntuli

#8. What is your favorite movie?

Answer: I have so many #1s but I’ll pick “The Usual Suspects.”

#9. What is your favorite music band?

Answer: The Soil [Watch YouTube VID]

#10. What’s the song stuck in your head? (No you don’t have to like it, but its there and we both know it!)

Answer: I usually make up songs in my head and nod to them. But I would say the most dominate is “Elevators” by Outkast

#11. Would you ever run for President?

Answer: Of my own company, yes 😀

Musa’s 11 Nominees:

#1. http://lifealight.wordpress.com/

#2. http://lifeofmale.wordpress.com/

#3. http://nonocele.co.za/

#4. http://my-buddha-nature.info/

#5. http://swabuluka.tumblr.com/

#6. http://blog.mrfire.com/ « Surely has more than 2k followers

#7. http://www.patobryan.com/blog/ « Another over 2k blogger

#8. http://winniekunene.co.za/

#9. http://tinybuddha.com/

#10. http://www.problogger.net/ « Has waaaaay over a 2k following.

#11. http://musa23.blogspot.com

Why We Shout In Anger

A Hindu saint who was visiting the river Ganges to take a bath, found a group of family members on the banks shouting in anger at each other.

He turned to his disciples, smiled and asked,

“Why do people shout in anger shout at each other?”

The disciples thought for a while, then one of them said,

“Because when we lose our calm, we shout.”

“But, why should you shout when the other person is just next to you?”

“You can as well tell him what you have to say in a soft manner,” asked the saint

The disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the saint.

Finally the saint explained, “When two people are angry at each other, their hearts distance a lot.”

“To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.”

“The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear each other to cover that great distance.”

“What happens when two people fall in love?”

“They don’t shout at each other but talk softly, because their hearts are very close.”

“The distance between them is either nonexistent or very small…”

The saint continued,

“When they love each other even more, what happens?”

“They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other in their love.”

“Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all.”

“That is how close two people are when they love each other.”

He looked at his disciples and said,

“So when you argue do not let your hearts get distant.”

“Do not say words that distance each other more, or else there will come a day when the distance is so great that you will not find the path to return.”

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“Leave Your Baggage Behind” by Dr John Demartini

Dr John Demartini wrote on Facebook:

“Many people walk through their lives dragging their emotional baggage because of a misperceived past and events they have never appreciated and loved.

Just in case you’re carrying any unnecessary loads, I encourage you to do this one thing now.

Make a list of every single thing in your life that you resent, or anything you have not loved, anything you think you made a mistake on, whatever you think you could have done ‘better.’

Then go through those items, one by one, and ask yourself:

How did it serve me?

How did it serve others?

Respond to these two questions again and again, until you discover the benefits of these actions and events, and see the balance, the order, and the gifts resulting from them in your life and in the lives of others.

Click on the link to receive your FREE Gift: Audio Download on Leave Your Baggage Behind: http://bit.ly/KYjafq

I love you.

Thank you.

Happy Holidays!

Merry Christmas!

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

What’s On Your Mind?

That was what Facebook keeps asking me every time I log on.

I never took much interest in it until a friend of mine noticed that it does not ask what’s on your mind anymore, but has been modified to “What’s going on?”

The “loss” of the old that is to be now replaced by the new gave more clarity and emphasis to the “loss.”

It was at that point that I began to see social networking’s enticing pull to update your status in a different light.

I’m sure you’ve read Think & Grow Rich by Dr. Napoleon Hill –

(if you haven’t then this book would make for an extremely helpful Christmas present for you or someone you care for – Search for it @ Amazon.com for details)

– as this life improving book goes into practical suggestions on how to use what’s on your mind to the best use possible.

As in whatever it is that’s not only on your mind but whatever it is that DOMINATES your mind, will come to produce itself in your life.

Whether you prefer it to happen or fear it happening for you.

How IN HEAVEN does that work?! you might ask.

Have you ever noticed how whenever you think of something, your mind gives you more suggestions that come close to what you are currently thinking of?

Take, for instance, when you have something in your mind that worries you.

When it is said that you worry yourself sick what has happened is that your mind kept feeding things to your mind that are in harmony with what you are currently thinking about.

That’s why it is suggested you think about possible solutions and not focus on the possible hinders to the solutions your minds comes up with.

No matter how ridiculous these solutions might be for you at first, the idea behind this creative process is to get the ball rolling, allowing your mind to expand and continue coming up with suggestions that will begin to improve your current circumstances.

There’s something you should keep in mind, pun unintended, and that how thoughts compound on top of one another.

This is how a simple thing like feeling gratitude for things like:

» the clothes you are wearing…

» then following it up with being grateful for the various of luxuries that electricity is giving you…

» then following that up with how fortunate you are to have someone you love & someone how loves you back (conditional love, no?)…

…could have an incredible effect on your mind, which in turn will have an improved effect on your mood.

This all because you have deliberately taken control of what YOU choose to dominate your mind, which in this case happens to be Gratitude.

Energy flows where attention goes.

So Facebook, & your current life results if anything else, should serve as a reminder of what is on your mind.

Because, if the above is true, then what you are living is the effect of what was caused by your thinking.

Therefore in order to save yourself from experiencing things you would prefer not to experience, fill your mind with the things you would like to experience.

HANG OUT MORE with people you would like to be more like.

As a footnote, your mind does not recognize the word “not.”

As in if you say, “I do not what such and such.”

What your mind registers is you saying, “I do want such and such.”

So refrain from being an “I Do Not” kind of person and instead practice and enjoy being an “I DO” kind of person.

You attract what you think about the most, whether you want the thing or not.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

PS: Be careful of “counter-attractions.” That is, thinking about something you want, all the while feeling the lack of it.

You need to pull it in with your positive emotions.

Your emotions either pull in that which you want in your life (these will be your good feeling emotions) or push that which you want away (these being your bad feeling emotions).

So feel good in your thinking.

Or at the least feel an improve feeling in your thinking and things that make you feel good will find their way to you.

PPS: You would be under served if I did not bring to your attention the link that will direct you to the site that is offering you incredible book Think and Grow Rich I mentioned to you earlier.

Happy Holidays to you and the people that you love and care about.