When Death, Time & Love Write Back 

I don’t like movies that make me cry.

Watching Collateral Beauty starring Will Smith had me squinting my eyes.

collateral_beautyHolding my tears back with my eyelids.

It’s been a while since I’ve watched a movie like that.

Evoking so much emotions then throwing me out of wack after it was done with me.

It was Mr. Smith’s best performance to date.

Enjoyed listening to the story behind the scenes on how he also experienced loss during the making of the movie.

How he just went all out in giving it all through the film.

Can’t wait until it’s out on Blu-ray.

It’s worth the watch.

Please forgive me.

I’m sorry.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

Being Better Than Your Old Self 

htwfaip​”The way to get things done,” says  [Charles] Schwab, “is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money-getting way, but in the desire to excel.” 

Ran our of characters for me to post this on Twitter so I’m posting it here.

Thought this was a cool quote.

Competing to be better than who you are.

From a book I’m reading again by Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People. 

Thank you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

I love you.

~ Musa

A Post About Living On Purpose

There have been a lot of events happening to me lately.

Life has been going at such a fast pace the conversation that I had two weeks feels it took place yesterday.

Ending up zoning out and going through the emotions not making any meaningful contributions.

I think the purpose of life is to serve others doing what you love.

So wasting your life being a repetitive zombie, doing the same dead end deal you did the day before, that isn’t taking you closer to what makes you happy… Is simply not living.

But I hear most people don’t know what they want or haven’t had the time to write them down.

If you don’t know what where you are going, you will stay where you are.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

Can You Stand The Rain?

I remember writing a post about avoiding pushing away your down days.

We can’t be working at peak levels all the time.

24/7.

365.

But moods can be managed.

And do agree with Tony Robbins on listing out things that trigger your feel good mood.

Especially what you do with your body when you are happy.

Music does it for me.

Listening to Pro, who once known as ProKid, does it for me.

But Rihanna‘s song a doing for me as well lately.

It’s kinda hard checking out her music videos though.

With so much ass and boobs you could swear you’re watching porn.

Maybe America is de-sensitized by nudity.

Hey, sex sales I guess…I was under the impression that it’s her talent, skill, hard work that’s making her stay on top of her game.

Maybe it’s because I don’t watch porn anymore after watching this Porn Experiment.

I digress.

So physically, to trigger my feel good vibes:

  • I have my shoulders back,
  • eyes are wider,
  • I move my hands a lot,
  • I smile,
  • I speak louder and faster,
  • I lean forward when I talk,
  • I make more eye contact,
  • my face is more animated,
  • take deeper breathes and expand my fingers.

But that’s me, I don’t know about you.

My challenge to you is to find a way to decode your body into tricking your brain into feeling good.

So when you feeling offish, there’s a chance you are shooting off your “offish triggers.”

Namely:

  • slouching shoulders,
  • short quick breaths,
  • sleepy eyes,
  • frowning,
  • closed off body language,
  • crossed eye brows,
  • feet dragging.

There a lot of things eternally that we can’t change, focused on what you can.

I found life is easier that way.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

The Resolution of Love

Waiting for the guy who is going to cut my hair to be done with styling two ladies.

So much work goes into installing a dead person’s hair on your head…only to see it get worn out and itch.

The outcome makes it worth the effort though if you are for that kind of thing.

Was thinking of bailing out and going back to the room that I’m renting, but decided against it because of who I will find waiting for me there.

Relationships can be exhausting, sometimes.

Maybe I’m just looking at this from a flawed perspective.

Especially when both parties do not communicate their vision.

People see things differently.

Not communicating these differences might even lead to fights.

And end up listening to meaningless conversations with people who are having other dead people’s hair being pasted on top of their natural hair, because of avoiding the one person you claim to love more than the rest…

As Neale Donald Walsch of the “Conversations with God” series put it, ask yourself: “What would love do now?”

Communicate more about our beliefs and how we would like things to be so to spend less time arguing for one.

A simple thing to do if we put our pride/ego on hold until progress towards finding a resolution has been initiated.

And that is my lifetime resolution.

Happy New Year.

I love you.

Thank you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele

The Importance of Biting Your Tongue

The fear of loss is greater than the need to gain.
Tony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within

Yesterday I bit my tongue while chewing on an orange.

Ever had such sudden and excruciating pain that you felt like the world has come to an end?

Well that’s what came to mind for me anyways when my teeth dug into the side of my tongue.

It’s been a while since I’ve had some good ones so you could imagine the shock of the pleasure of eating one of my favourite fruits combined with the pain of self mutilation 😥

Thankfully I survived and endless streams of blood didn’t gush out of my wound as I thought it would.

It just had me thinking of how pain can be used to change your emotional and physical state.

And how it can also be used as a motivating factor in your life.

It just echoes what I’ve been reading from Anthony Robbins’ Awaken the Giant Within book of how we are motivated by two emotions: pain or pleasure.

As in the only reason you keep from doing certain things, that might even produce positive results in your life, is because you associate an emotion of pain towards them.

As in you believe you will some how experience pain or some sort of discomfort in you doing it.

And the only reason you keep doing certain things, that might even be giving you negative results in your life, is because you’ve come to associate some sort of pleasure in doing them.

As in you believe that some sort of pleasurable feeling will come from you doing that particular thing.

Anthony’s book is an eye opener for me in a sense that not only can you identify these patterns but you can also change these patterns to suit your needs and specific outcomes.

Because for you to change your results (the effects) you need to first change the source (the cause).

Pain can bring you so much clarity…to a point where you even find yourself blogging about it 🙂

PS. The tongue is healed and ready for some more oranges!! Buhahahahaha!!

You Will Never Experince Positive Things By Feeling Negative Feelings

You can’t be reading in-depth things like news articles or forwarded emails that make you feel bad & then turn around & expect positive things in your life.

You can’t be involved in conversations full of negativity and then acting all surprised when positive things don’t come your way.

Never fool yourself into thinking that when you feel negative feelings you can expect positive results.

You are breaking the Law of Cause & Effect when you think that way.

When you feel bad for a long enough time you attract the bad.

When you feel good for a long enough time you attract the good.

Sometimes the negativity you feel can’t be helped.

But surrounding yourself with negative people and negative stories or things only makes the negativity you might be feeling at the time bigger.

Eliminate or at least limit the things that make you feel bad…and increase the things that make you feel good.

And one of the things that could make you feel good is this EFT thing.

I wrote about it here.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele