Who Have You Equipped Today?

So today is yet another day…oh yeah I now remember what I wanted to blog about.

Equipping was a word Dr J. Maxwell taught me in his book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You.

I didn’t realize the different meaning of the word until he explained it to me.

I won’t be able to re-explain it exactly the way he did, but I’ll try.

Maxwell wrote about how he taught the staff, at his favorite restaurant, how he would like to be served.

It made sense.

I mean, if you value my business, as a patron, then you need to serve me the way I like. So that I can keep me as a customer.

How he would like to be treated from the moment he enters the restaurant, how things should be laid out for him during his stay, all the way up until he leaves.

Maxwell equipped them on how they can better keep him as a customer.

It’s a win-win situation, like Dr. S. Covey described in The 7 Steps to Highly Effective People.

Maxwell has a pleasant experience being services and they get to keep this internationally influential customer under their belt.

I decided to try this “equipping” idea on a colleague.

Integrity is one of my highest values, so when I loan you money and you say you will pay me back tomorrow, only for you to come up with a story when tomorrow comes, it violates one of my highest values.

It’s an insult to me.

And I don’t like to be disrespected.

Respect being another of my other top values.

So I gave it a shot.

My colleague asked for money from me again, and said he will pay me back at theend of our shift.

The time came when the reimbursement was due, and like a creature of habit, he asked if he can pay me tomorrow.

I replied that I could wait for tomorrow.

It caught him by surprise, usually I just say yes and allow people like him to walk all over me.

I didn’t feel like being a doormat that day.

I asked if I heard him right when he said he was going to pay me back at the end of our shift.

He said he did. I then asked what happened.

An question he couldn’t answer.

He proceeded gearing his mind and actions towards paying me back, like he said.

The way he threw the money back in my hands, was not with the same grace I loaned him with.

Which was fine, because it sets up one for two possible future scenarios:

  1. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he just won’t.
  2. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he knows he would need to deliver on time.

He has been equipped.

He might try me a few more times so he can try his luck.

I would then need to be consistent with my equipping him.

It puts me in a place of power and control. I hate being reactive.

How about you?

~ Musa

Nothing Beats The Grind

After 2-3 weeks of submitting a minimum of 10 resumes a day, I finally got a job. My fiance’s family fed me during the holidays hustle.

A very humbling experience since I am a prideful man.

I don’t like getting handouts because in my life I’ve come to find that most handouts come with an IOU tag.

I don’t want to be indebted to anyone.

So being in the position I was in, made me grind harder.

I think I sent out those CVs and with me going to interviews between.

Some interviews where scams, some promising. But I kept submitting them promising or not.

Most people start slowling where nearing the finish line.

I slow down once I cross it.

Hell, I even turned to reading the bible.

You know shit’s hit the fan when I pick up “the book.”

It kept me going. That and seeing the unbothered smile on my daughter’s face.

She hit the side of her eye, that one, playing in the playgrounds at cresche.

Had to get stitched. Busy walking around with an eye the size of a golf ball. To put it mildly, she was not impressed seeing the world with one eye.

But I’m glad I was there to assist with the healing process.

But it was her mom that kept me above water mainly. There’s no one I appreciated more, beyond words even, than her, during this period.

I felt stripped of my title as a provider.

As a man, if I cannot provide for my family, what am I?

Feeling lost, going to bed with a broken heart. I was without purpose and I felt depressed.

The need to feel needed by corporate was overwhelming. Which felt like a contradiction because I promote the idea of owning your own business.

A purposeless, non providing, hypocrite of the a man.

And I knew if I start hating myself then there won’t be any improvement in my life.

So I kept my black ass working to keep from thinking negative thoughts.

Because my thinking was shit.

It worked, at face level.

But for lasting results, I need that deep kinda loving.

That only I can provide from the inside out.

The grind paid off.

Now employed on a probationary basis.

Work ethic + being intentional + the law of averages working in my favour produced results.

With prayer and work ethic, something’s got to give.

And it did.

As expected.

~ Musa

PS. This was a delayed post. My baby girl is all healed up now. Mischievous as hell. I wouldn’t want it any other way.

“The Opposite of Courage In Our Society Is Not Cowardice … It Is Conformity.”

So I took a week’s worth of leave and coming back to work felt awkward.

In the sense that I could see things from an objective perspective.

There’s so much BS office politics here.

What with the whining over things we can’t control over, since none of us hold the majority shares in the company for one.

The brooding climate at work made me laugh because, like most here, I wasn’t doing anything much to improve my situation.

Instead, I found comfort in complaining about the same things I was complaining about the day before.

Not realizing that I worked hard to be in this ugly situation I was in.

Working hard in doing the wrong things.

All thanks to the daily discipline of bad choices I consciously made day in and day out.

And I was arrogant enough to remain on this path which has led me to where I am right now.

There’s no one to blame but myself.

So what if the business is making as if it’s finding ways to make it’s workforce resign.

With conniving ways of tricking us into pushing for targets and then dishing out sanctions for the manner in which the targets where reached.

Then again, why should I stay?

Yes, life will trip you up and get you down in the dirt.

But, with just a little research – you’ll find others who have had it far worse than you but still managed to work in making things better…eventually.

“Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”

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I was just too lazy in putting in the work it takes to eventually coming out a winner.

Doing enough of the right things for a long period of time, will give you the results you want.

The magic word here is Consistency.

We just quit too soon.

When people are looking down the barrel of failure in their lives,
they will do whatever it takes to get themselves moving, something,
anything, to start climbing upward toward the point of survival.

And then, once they get to the point where they’re keeping their heads
above water, they start heading back down again.

As they start getting close enough to the failure line that they can see it coming, they go,
“Whoops, I’m headed towards failure!” and then they do whatever it
takes to turn their trajectory around and start heading back up … and
the cycle repeats.” – Jeff Olsen, The Slight Edge

This was laid out perfectly when Jeff Olson spoke about it in the sample of his newly edited The Slight Edge that I have a link to for you here.

~ Musa

What Peak Performers Do In The Morning That You Might Not Be Doing…

The way I’m driving what little traffic I have to his YouTube page, one might think he’s paying me to do it.

I don’t know much about Ed Mylett.

But of what little I know, was shared on an interview I stumbled over, that you can access through one of my posts here.

~ Musa

I Want To Be Stupid Rich, Don’t You?

You know, I just realized something.

You don’t have to be “educated” to be successful.

This was after watching this video on of a professional soccer player whose team won the match that evening.

I’m sure there were other players who were proficient in speaking English.

But you never see them in post match interviews getting the awards for player of the match here in Mzansi.

I’m not saying being fluent in English makes you educated…it actually makes you lost.

But what I’m pointing at is how most of the people who dribble (pun intended) their way to stardom, could be seen as dumb people.

“Uneducated” but rich.

Yet all those that take the conventional route to success, the educated – never get post-match interviews for player of the match.

Just saying, don’t confuse being educated with success.

~ Musa

My Achilles Heel…

download…is consistency.

You do something long enough…if you do the right things long enough, then the right things will appear in your life.

It works both ways.

You the wrong things long enough and the wrong things will come up in your life.

Like when you leave something undone, knowing the consciences, but being surprised when they become a reality for you.

You leave shit undone WTF did you expect to happen?

That’s been me lately.

If you mess around with universal laws, you will get burned.

But if you use them to your advantage, then you benefit.

That’s my wish for you this year.

Compliments of the New Year.

And use this universal law to YOUR benefit.

~ Musa