You Are What You Accept

4694342-Jay-Z-Quote-Don-t-ever-go-with-the-flow-Be-the-flowYou teach people how you would like to be treated, by how you react to what they say or do.

Either by acceptance of what they do to you or by you reprimanding them.

To correct someone on how you would like to be treated, I believe, comes from raising your standards.

Low standards allows them to continue “taking advantage” of you, while raising them educates them on how you would like to be treated.

It takes courage to put yourself first.

It takes courage futhi to “equip” people on how you like to be treated, in order for them to bring out the best in you.

It’s a win-win.

Reminds me of how I cringe when people organize events at the last minute and expect me to participate.

9 times out of 10 I don’t. If I do, it is with a closed heart.

Give me time to think it over in my mind as a typical melancholy. Don’t pull a sanguine move on me and expect to me to be jolly about it.

But then again I’m an introvert, so being “out there” drains my energy, at times.

I’m just at a point in my life, with all that’s happening, where I cannot “go with the flow” that goes against my core values.

Living a lie is tiring.

There is power outside your comfort zone.

~ Musa

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“The Same Wind Blows On Us All…”

I just recently started going over what it takes to be a leader.

Through the people I’ve hung out with and the books I’ve read, the YouTube videos I’ve watched, one thing is certain:

There are things you have to deny yourself in order for you to meet some of what it takes to become a leader.

One of them being having to deny yourself the “relief” of taking 100% responsibility of everything in your life.photo84

Most of us, including myself, take the back seat and let life have its way with us.

Always reacting to it. Instead of responding to it.

We’ve become too lazy to think for ourselves. Allowing others to think for us.

And then wonder why we are in the current situation we are in. Or worse yet, blaming others as the reason why we are where we are, right now.

Only to call those that are making it out there as the lucky ones.

That one concept alone – taking 100% ownership of every single thing in your life – (meaning the good and the bad) will begin to move you towards the things you really want in your life.

It might not happen overnight, but this new direction you will be taking will eventually lead you to your goal.

“Here’s a philosophy that helped change my life. It’s not what happens that determines your life’s future. It’s what you do about what happens. 

All of us are in like a little sailboat, and it’s not the blowing of the wind that determines your destination. It’s the set of the sail. So jot this phrase down. It’s one of the best to understand. 

The same wind blows on us all. The wind of disaster, the wind of opportunity, the wind of change, the wind when it’s upside down, the wind when it’s favorable and unfavorable. 

The same wind blows on us all. The economic wind, the social wind, the political wind. The same wind blows on everybody.  The difference in where you arrive in one year, three years, five years, the difference in arrival is not the blowing of the wind but the set of the sail.”

– Jim Rohn of JimRohn.com

You do have a goal right?

One of the things that lead to depression is not having a goal to wake up to.

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale said it is his book The Power of Positive Thinking:

Feeling listlesswrite a list.” 

~ Musa

The Annoyed Leader

obama-looking-pissed-annoyedNothing that annoys me more than the “L” word.

Being a leader comes with responsibility.

Hence leaders are paid more than followers.

And that’s what I want, to be paid more.

Just not liking what I need to become for that to happen.

Like someone once said, people want to go to heaven but are afraid of dying.

For you to reach the end, a process needs to be followed.

Much like what my mentor mentioned during our sit down yesterday.

Freedom is not free.

So for my bank balance to grow, I need to grow.

And the recommended books that teach leadership will help with that.

It’s a continous thing though.

Every day I need to read for at least 15 minutes.

The good stuff I’m feeding my brain with come out in the form of my actions.

And that’s how all things change, through your actions.

Leaders are readers.

And in the long run, what I am seeing as my current reality will differ.

Especially since associations are important.

She also mentioned how pain is your friend.

Without pain then there is no growth.

That means you are comfortable.

Yet success is at the end of your comfort zone.

Because if you keep doing what you’ve been doing, then you will keep getting what you are currently getting.

But the rub is that this process of reading needs to be consistent, for the Slight Edge to have the time to kick in.

That’s why I need to be in it for the long run.

Because leadership is not limited to business or work.

Those that you are in charge of are looking up to you as a leader.

I like how Simon Sinek puts it:

“Leadership is a responsibility. It’s not about being in charge. It’s about taking care of those in your charge.” – @SimonSinek

~ Musa

A Business Like No Other…

new-mlm-companiesI think network marketing levels the playing field.

I could be wrong, it’s just my observation.

From my limited observation, businesses are handed over from generation to generation.

The only legacy I’ve seen being left the masses is poverty.

Some families are brought up with the option of aspiring to be business owner, while other families are sold the idea of becoming employees or self employed.

Asking the government to fix this in the form of land distribution, for instance, is as effective as the removal of our now current President from office.

But network marketing nullifies this dependent mindset.

The right one also offers you training and mentorship on how to succeed by also developing a business owner mindset.

But the best ones allow for your network marketing business to be passed on from generation to generation, just like these families I spoke of earlier.

With the right training to develop your skills, I believe anyone can succeed in what they put their minds to.

Multi level marketing included.

One of the hiccups I have with conventional business is the start up capital, amongst other uncertainties.

But obviously if you are committed enough and want it badly enough then you can find solutions around that.

I guess one chooses ones battles.

With me preferring minimum start up capital.

Minimal operational costs.

No overhead.picture2

With some part time but consistent work ethic, the results are predictable.

Results that can supplement my current salary.

Results that can be on par with my current salary.

Results that can eclipse my current salary.

A business like no other.

Look as a disclaimer, anything legit that allows you to make extra income is great.

Be it MLMs or another job or part time gig or strip joints.

I’m just talking about what I’m exposed to.

Do you due dilengece.

This working you way up to your salary month end only to start at zero the following month, is insane.

But most of us are doing it so it’s ok right?

I don’t think so.

~ Musa

Buying Your Way to Heaven…

51NXzS5PJxL…Is the most selfish thing you can do.

I’m getting ahead of myself.

I love Neale D. Walsch’s take on heaven.

How it’s not a place good people go to when they die but a place good people go to when they are still alive.

Good people are good because of their actions.

The good they do boomerangs back to them in the form of good things happening to them.

Those happenings are what refers to as heaven.

So heaven from what he wrote in his book is more of an experience more than it is a destination.

I love that.

Heaven on earth.

Through your thoughts and your words and your actions, you create your own hell or heaven on earth.

So buying yourself to heaven by doing good pays off.

Because what comes around, goes around.

~ Musa

Hell Is An Experience

Carracci-PurgatoryI’m thinking that sometimes we need to pray when things are going right too.

Like right now, as I’m thankful to God that my little girl is healthy and getting stronger by the day.

Almost a month ago she was in hospital being treated for the pneumonia she picked up at creche we think.

It’s a public hospital that means we were kicked out around 7pm and allowed in back in at 7am.

It felt shitty leaving her behind, oxygen mask on, drip in arm, with her feeling sickly.

There was no better time to go to God with her paining like she was.

So, eventually, when the weight of it all brought me to my knees, I started praying.

Not a lofty prayer but a detailed, heartfelt prayer of gratitude.

Being thankful of what I already have and being thankful of what I wanted to see, in terms of a healthy baby that’s being discharged and back home with us.

And I continued spending most of my day being grateful of that truth.

My truth.

A prayer God answered.

Remembering Her in the bad times only to forget or take Her for granted in the good times.

Beka manje, I’m spending my off day with my Beasty and I’m not thanking God for that.

While in this physical life I see hell and heaven as an experience.

Not a destination.

And the further away from God the closer I am to experiencing situations that feel hellish.

But with continuous association and communication with Her I will be guided out of those hell experiences into heavenly ones.

Like the one I’m having now.

And I’m grateful for them.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

~ Musa

The Fixer

B33rFzqCYAIREuFSometimes when the road ahead looks very dark, anxiety levels go up.

That’s when I come to you God to help shed some light.

But if the road I’m taking vele has no street lights then I’m relieved knowing that you are by my side.

I’m taking this knee with this post because I’m also in dire need so my ancestors need to be also involved in this prayer.

Because without them I would be here, and without You they wouldn’t have been.

I light my candles and incense with this update in gratitude of what I already have.

Thank you for our business.

Thank you for our jobs.

Thank you for the shelter you are providing us.

Thank you for the water and lights that we sometimes take for granted.

Thank you for the food we eat.

Our perfect health and the rich relationships we have.

Thank you for the clothes on our backs.

And the large amounts of income that come to us through various sources, with increasing frequency.

All praise goes to you God.

I am bound to make flops along the way.

I just want to thank you for softening the falls.

Thank you for giving me the courage to fail forward.

Because there is no learning without falling. And I need to learn so I can grow to be my better self.

Continue guiding us through to our better self.

Yours in gratitude,

Amen