Who Have You Equipped Today?

So today is yet another day…oh yeah I now remember what I wanted to blog about.

Equipping was a word Dr J. Maxwell taught me in his book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You.

I didn’t realize the different meaning of the word until he explained it to me.

I won’t be able to re-explain it exactly the way he did, but I’ll try.

Maxwell wrote about how he taught the staff, at his favorite restaurant, how he would like to be served.

It made sense.

I mean, if you value my business, as a patron, then you need to serve me the way I like. So that I can keep me as a customer.

How he would like to be treated from the moment he enters the restaurant, how things should be laid out for him during his stay, all the way up until he leaves.

Maxwell equipped them on how they can better keep him as a customer.

It’s a win-win situation, like Dr. S. Covey described in The 7 Steps to Highly Effective People.

Maxwell has a pleasant experience being services and they get to keep this internationally influential customer under their belt.

I decided to try this “equipping” idea on a colleague.

Integrity is one of my highest values, so when I loan you money and you say you will pay me back tomorrow, only for you to come up with a story when tomorrow comes, it violates one of my highest values.

It’s an insult to me.

And I don’t like to be disrespected.

Respect being another of my other top values.

So I gave it a shot.

My colleague asked for money from me again, and said he will pay me back at theend of our shift.

The time came when the reimbursement was due, and like a creature of habit, he asked if he can pay me tomorrow.

I replied that I could wait for tomorrow.

It caught him by surprise, usually I just say yes and allow people like him to walk all over me.

I didn’t feel like being a doormat that day.

I asked if I heard him right when he said he was going to pay me back at the end of our shift.

He said he did. I then asked what happened.

An question he couldn’t answer.

He proceeded gearing his mind and actions towards paying me back, like he said.

The way he threw the money back in my hands, was not with the same grace I loaned him with.

Which was fine, because it sets up one for two possible future scenarios:

  1. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he just won’t.
  2. Next time he feels the need to request something from me, he knows he would need to deliver on time.

He has been equipped.

He might try me a few more times so he can try his luck.

I would then need to be consistent with my equipping him.

It puts me in a place of power and control. I hate being reactive.

How about you?

~ Musa

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You Fear the Sabre-tooth

6753809I read somewhere that the brain is wired since the stone age to think negatively so to protect us from the dangers that existed then.

Sabre-tooth as an example.

These days this negative thinking works overtime, stopping us from getting ahead in life.

Because we fear trying something new.

Fear of the Sabre-tooth.

This happens without us even realizing.

Without reading, preferably instructional books, then nothing will contradict that thinking.

You could even try swapping listening to the car radio station or your phone playlist for an audiobook.

The hours you spent while traveling, could be spent sharpening your mind against the Sabre-tooth.

Marvel_avengers_alliance_sabretooth_by_ratatrampa87-d6tj8tgThe benefits of investing in yourself will eventually be seen via your outlook in your life.

Maybe that’s what you need.

Maybe that’s what need.

A different outlook.

That comes from developing a habit of reading or listening daily to go sh*t.

~ Musa

Replace Your S** t Habits With Good Ones

I kept on seeing and hearing the name Simon Sinek being projected in my head.

Simon Sinek.

As if stuck in the frontal lobe of my brain.

Simon Sinek.

All this, haunting, while trying to sleep.

So here I am, writing about him.

I don’t know much about him.

He was first brought to my attention by a business partner who has a background in medicine.

Google Sinek.

From the little I know of him is that he’s a speaker.

He speaks about most about leadership. On what defines a leader and what drives her. Reasons why they are true leaders. Amongst other things.

He’s available on different social media sites, I also follow him on Twitter and IG.

He’s an author as well, he wrote Start With Why.

And there are lots of videos on the ‘Tube that have he’s talks.

I think there’s a vid of one of his talks I posted in one of my blogs that I thought was awesome.

There’s a bias that comes with being a leader that I want to take advantage of.

The monetary benefits of being paid to solve problems being one of them.

It’s as if followers create problems while leaders get paid to solve them.

So I’ve been listening to some of his audios as well. Him, John Maxwell and Gary Vaynerchuk are the 3 guys I’ve been filling my head with of late.

And Eric Thomas. #TGIM

I guess I can be obsessed with certain things in my life, such as my personal development.

If I don’t invest the time for it, noone else will.

Then I will just be like the rest of them, blaming my job or spouse or community or the government or the gods for my current, undesirable situations.

Not realising that the true problem here is me.

I fix me, all else gets fixed.

It’s an inside job.

~ Musa

A Business Like No Other…

new-mlm-companiesI think network marketing levels the playing field.

I could be wrong, it’s just my observation.

From my limited observation, businesses are handed over from generation to generation.

The only legacy I’ve seen being left the masses is poverty.

Some families are brought up with the option of aspiring to be business owner, while other families are sold the idea of becoming employees or self employed.

Asking the government to fix this in the form of land distribution, for instance, is as effective as the removal of our now current President from office.

But network marketing nullifies this dependent mindset.

The right one also offers you training and mentorship on how to succeed by also developing a business owner mindset.

But the best ones allow for your network marketing business to be passed on from generation to generation, just like these families I spoke of earlier.

With the right training to develop your skills, I believe anyone can succeed in what they put their minds to.

Multi level marketing included.

One of the hiccups I have with conventional business is the start up capital, amongst other uncertainties.

But obviously if you are committed enough and want it badly enough then you can find solutions around that.

I guess one chooses ones battles.

With me preferring minimum start up capital.

Minimal operational costs.

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With some part time but consistent work ethic, the results are predictable.

Results that can supplement my current salary.

Results that can be on par with my current salary.

Results that can eclipse my current salary.

A business like no other.

Look as a disclaimer, anything legit that allows you to make extra income is great.

Be it MLMs or another job or part time gig or strip joints.

I’m just talking about what I’m exposed to.

Do you due dilengece.

This working you way up to your salary month end only to start at zero the following month, is insane.

But most of us are doing it so it’s ok right?

I don’t think so.

~ Musa

How To Write Your 100 Dreams List

Even Brian Tracy mentioned that most of the things you write down will be attracted in your physical reality.

I believe if you act on them they will be attracted faster, but hey writing them down, pen to paper, also puts you ahead of most.

Not to take anything away from Tracy but I got this method of writing your 100 Dreams from Keith Abraham, author of Know This Content

These are the questions he suggested you should ask yourself:

1. What 5 things you would like to learn in your lifetime?

2. What 5 family experiences you would like to provide for your family?

3. What 5 things you want to do just once?

4. What 5 sporting events you would like to go to live?

5. What 5 things you would like to share or teach others?

6. What 5 challenges you would like to conquer in your lifetime?

7. What 5 personal characteristics you would like to develop?

8. What 5 financial milestones you would like to achieve?

9. What 5 things you would like to do in your community?

10. What 5 concerts you would like to attend live?

11. What 5 cities would like to explore?

12. What 5 things you like to do in your own country?

13. What 5 cultural events you would like to attend?

14. What 5 goals achieved in the past and would like to achieve again?

15. What 5 things you would like to design?

16. What 5 businesses you would like to build?

17. What 5 things you would like to create?

18. What 5 things you would like to own

19. What 5 health milestones you would like to reach?

20. What 5 hobbies you would like to pursue?

Maybe sharing my list will also help you with writing yours.

Which is the first step, Keith goes deeper and wants you to establish the emotion behind your dreams. 

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you.

– Musawenkosi Tshoaele

When I Say "Happy New Year" To You, I Mean It!

For this to be a happy new year (I use the words “new year” in the context of it being different from last year. We tend to celebrate even before we have conquered, I don’t know whether to call it arrogance or confidence…but I’ll go for the latter) one must focus on improving on last year’s habits.

Habits are just a series of actions you keep repeating.

You have come to do them so frequently that they have become so familiar to you, you end up doing them unconsciously. Now they have become a part you so much that you end up defending them. They now make up your belief. You have claimed them as your own, you have tagged them as who you are.

And since in life – like Dr. Wayne Dwyer puts it, you don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are – our inner beliefs (“A belief is only a thought you keep thinking.” – Abraham-Hicks) manifest into our outer habits and how these habits (repetitive unconscious actions) attract things to you, it is important to change your beliefs in order for you to receive “change” in your life.

Belief then Habits which are your Actions = Results

Pat O’Bryan says it best in how your inner game has to change before your outer game changes.

One has to invite one’s beliefs to change by adopting new habits.

The idea is to teach your beliefs why you are now adopting new habits – this is done through disciplines like autosuggestion in the form of:

  • visualizations, 
  • affirmations, 
  • frequent written statements of WHY you want to attract your goal(s), 
  • meditation, 
  • carrying goal cards around, 
  • role playing, 
  • and even this mirror technique I’ve just come across from the book I’ve been currently reading 

– so that your beliefs match with the habits you are persistent in your implementation of them, which in turn calls on you to take Inspired Action that produces Deliberate Results in your life.

By action I mean those small yet deliberate actions that you do everyday which will one day (idealistically one should have a timeline – depending in which teachings you admire most) produce the results you want. i.e. Ask yourself, “If you kept on doing the things you are doing now for the next 20 years, are you going to be in the same place you are in or somewhere better?”

It’s those kind of inspired actions I am taking about.

Life rewards action.

That’s how anyone gets anything new in their lives, they adopt new actions to invite the news in their lives (I mean “news” in the sense of “new stuff”).

So as much as I would love to say a Happy New Year to you, I just wonder if there’s anything New about this Year for you to be Happy about?

But you’re probably not into this personal development BS & you probably like most of us out there relying on having a “cross your fingers” approach in life. You know, relying on the luck of the draw to give you that instant jackpot prize towards the things you want out of life?

How has that been working for you?

How has the last 5 years changed for you?

Are you any closer to your goals?

Do you even HAVE goals?

How can you measure success if you do not have goals?

How can you become successful when you don’t know how success looks like for you?

How would you know you have arrived?

When would you know to get excited and celebrate your success?

If you are still breathing, it is never too late to set goals for yourself and the plans, the steps you believe you need to take in order to accomplish these goals, starting right were you are right now and reaching for your goals.

Those small, easy to do, daily steps that when done with determination and consistency will make you achieve your desired chief definite goals.