Hand Outs

30704604_10156443883328304_2485161551590003087_nYou can’t get what you don’t give.

That’s the way of life.

You have to give what you desire.

It’s a law.

Because what you give, you will always get back in return.

You hand out disrespect.

It will come back to you.

Like an invisible boomerang.

The thing is when it does return, it hits you unexpectedly.

Making you feel like you’re the victim when, no actually, you’re the instigator.

Before you cry foul, take a stand back and see whether logs need to be removed from your eye first & foremost.

But as a sidenote, not everyone is going to like you.

Don’t stop being yourself.

But do so respectfully.

The worlds is filled with assholes. No need adding to the stats.

~ Musa

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Winnie Madikizela-Mandela (1936-2018)

95308433f3394a58b30d64e0c82c99aeIt’s a sad day today with us laying to rest Winnie Madikizela-Mandela.

It was a huge funeral procession, which almost worthy to the individual.

Someone praised so much in death but wasn’t a celebrated in life.

But such is the way of the world.

One could go as far as saying that she kept former president Nelson’s name alive during his 27 year incarceration.

Keeping him relevant, inspiring artist’s like the late Brenda Fassie to sing songs about him.

At time that when the streets where on fire.

Literally.

The aftermath being relived in the minds of our parents and grandparents.

Influencing how we are raised.

In this “democratic” Republic.

May her soul rest in peace.

My Leader.

“When the Real Leader Speaks, People Listen”

I got my hands on John Mawell’s book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership.

While reading Chapter 5 – The Law of E. F. HuttonWhen the Real Leader Speaks, People Listen I had a real world experience of  how I can apply it.

Thube invited her niece to the easter egg hunt that was hosted by my cousin.

So in the car we went.

Myself, Thube, Omu our first born and Thube’s niece.

She’s a toddler of around 5 years of age I believe.

A handful, like most toddlers but I just seem unable to communicate with her.

I tried.

It falls on death ears leaving me frustrated when what I request from her does not happen.

Welcome to parenthood right?

So I took a page from The Law of E. F. Hutton.41M1oUaz1ZL._SX329_BO1,204,203,200_

Sometimes, there is someone who has more influence than you.

Sometimes, when you think you have the role of the leader, the people in your charge at that moment might be inclined to be led by someone else.

Even if you are the one who is holding the title or the position of a leader.

So this time around I wanted to give it a go.

The little princess rolled down her window when she got in the backseat. When we hit the highway the most irritating sound came from that window.

From the wind outside coming through while driving.

So instead of me going at it with the sweetest voice my baritone can master, asking this little precious to close the window so I can put the aircon on for her, I asked the real leader.

Thube.

“Thube, please ask the little pumpkin to close the window for me,” I requested.

The message was relayed and, lo and behold, the little pumpkin willingly closed the window for us!

Something I would have struggled with if I had when at it my way.

Nothing groundbreaking to you I’m sure.

But to me, it really cemented the law.

 

Really interested in uncovering the laws that I can put in to play to get this leadership gig going.

~ Musa

“The Same Wind Blows On Us All…”

I just recently started going over what it takes to be a leader.

Through the people I’ve hung out with and the books I’ve read, the YouTube videos I’ve watched, one thing is certain:

There are things you have to deny yourself in order for you to meet some of what it takes to become a leader.

One of them being having to deny yourself the “relief” of taking 100% responsibility of everything in your life.photo84

Most of us, including myself, take the back seat and let life have its way with us.

Always reacting to it. Instead of responding to it.

We’ve become too lazy to think for ourselves. Allowing others to think for us.

And then wonder why we are in the current situation we are in. Or worse yet, blaming others as the reason why we are where we are, right now.

Only to call those that are making it out there as the lucky ones.

That one concept alone – taking 100% ownership of every single thing in your life – (meaning the good and the bad) will begin to move you towards the things you really want in your life.

It might not happen overnight, but this new direction you will be taking will eventually lead you to your goal.

“Here’s a philosophy that helped change my life. It’s not what happens that determines your life’s future. It’s what you do about what happens. 

All of us are in like a little sailboat, and it’s not the blowing of the wind that determines your destination. It’s the set of the sail. So jot this phrase down. It’s one of the best to understand. 

The same wind blows on us all. The wind of disaster, the wind of opportunity, the wind of change, the wind when it’s upside down, the wind when it’s favorable and unfavorable. 

The same wind blows on us all. The economic wind, the social wind, the political wind. The same wind blows on everybody.  The difference in where you arrive in one year, three years, five years, the difference in arrival is not the blowing of the wind but the set of the sail.”

– Jim Rohn of JimRohn.com

You do have a goal right?

One of the things that lead to depression is not having a goal to wake up to.

Dr. Norman Vincent Peale said it is his book The Power of Positive Thinking:

Feeling listlesswrite a list.” 

~ Musa