Men don’t like talking about their feelings.
Let me not generalize.
I don’t like talking about my feelings.
This pisses Thube off.
Instead of me articualting, with my mouth & voice like a normal person, that Thube on this particular daym the comment you made really upset me.
It stung even more when you kept bringing it up during the course of the day.
Making as if I out to make life difficult for you, which is the last thing I want.
Musa keeps quiet and walks around moody, being sarcastic and rude to my person.
This is because I associate talking about my feelings as a sign of weakness.
And I don’t want to be seen as weak man in the eyes of my woman.
So I don’t talk about it.
That’s very clever of me.
This obviously drops number of times we have sex because I’m mad at her and she’s not going to reward me with sex for shitty attitude I’ve been giving her.
Ending up with me considering getting it somewhere else, because I am not getting it at home…and it’s her fault…
…Very childish thinking this.
All the while, girl has no clue why I’m being so spiteful during our interactions.
And where do I expect her to quench her sexual needs when I’m being such a dick.
(See what I did there?)
This “weakness” kills relationships.
Well, it’s one of the things that kills relationships…then there’s money…but I digress.
I came to the realization of this story I’ve been telling myself while watching Tony Robbins “I Am Not Your Guru,” on the Netflix that I’ve been trying out with the night time data deals Homecloud is offering.
It gets tiring for Thube, hounding me to voice it out what’s eating at me.
The thought of her one day not coming to me, to “hound me” as I put, to only allow the rift between us grow into having us going our separate paths, shook me up.
Am I willing to have a bitch fit that leads me to losing the mother of my firstborn?
The love of my life.
My best friend.
I decided to then drop the story I was telling myself about what my definition of being weak means.
To save my relationship.
By beginning to see communication as an essential element of what makes us a power couple.
The more we communicate, the stronger our bond, the more we can fill up each others love tank by communicating better with each others love languages.
The more the sex.
Communication is key.
It’s a difference between having a relationship & having a business transaction.
Because love is communication.