Step #1. Think about someone that upsets you.
Step #2. Now think about the positive things you have observed about them…
If you where like me Step #2 needed some really haaard thinking.
Since it’s easier for you to find fault in someone that has hurt you in some way, than it is for you to find something you can appreciate about them.
If this is the case for you then part of your work is to source out the positive aspects of that person.
Write a list of the positive aspects about the person (or event) that is causing you to feel temporary discomfort.
Since you can’t change or control other people your best bet is to change or control yourself.
To change how you view them.
It was once said that it is not what the other person does that hurts us, but how we respond to it.
And once you’ve identified someone as the source of your discomfort, they have power over you.
You are in their pocket.
They get to play you like a puppet master.
I’ve been there.
And I don’t want that for you.
You need to take your power back by looking for positive aspects about them.
And bless them.
And praise them.
And appreciate them.
Even if you have to do it with a grin.
Then you will slowly but surely get your power back.
It was yours to give away in the first place therefore it is yours to get back.
Genuinely love your enemies.
This includes forgiving them too.
Not for their sake.
But for yours.
I love you.
~ Musawenkosi Tshoaele.