You Ever Saw A Scary Movie?

Making a habit of sidelining your life goals because of how hard achieving them will be is a bad habit.

Rather find yourself within the field that runs hand in hand with what you ultimately want in life, even if at the time the pay isn’t good.

Your initial sacrifices coupled with your desire to achieve and succeed in your life’s passion will eventually pay off.

Living life short selling yourself will only lead to regret in your late years.

Rather live a challenging life fighting for your dreams.

Than a quiet one with no stories to tell your grand kids.

I don’t want to be a boring, poor granddad living with my daughter.

Talk about a scary movie.

I love you.
I’m sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

A Life That You Must Cherish

It’s been sometime since I wrote on my blog.

Usually I use my life experiences as the inspiration that gave me the content for what I write here.

Lessons learnt that are worth sharing to those that read here.

But it’s been an emotional couple of months.

With life and death experiences.

No, I’m not a ghost 👻 having mastered typing skills in the physical realm.

Although that would be cool.

I’m speaking about the birth of my first born daughter and the death of my grandmother.

At 5:22 AM a 3.60kg Omuhle Siphosethu Tshoaele arrived on 4 June 2016.

The day my life changed.

In the AM of 5 August 2016 Mapule Elizabeth Kumalo made her exit.

Life is precious.

No matter how you look at it.

Musawenkosi Tshoaele

A Post About Living On Purpose

There have been a lot of events happening to me lately.

Life has been going at such a fast pace the conversation that I had two weeks feels it took place yesterday.

Ending up zoning out and going through the emotions not making any meaningful contributions.

I think the purpose of life is to serve others doing what you love.

So wasting your life being a repetitive zombie, doing the same dead end deal you did the day before, that isn’t taking you closer to what makes you happy… Is simply not living.

But I hear most people don’t know what they want or haven’t had the time to write them down.

If you don’t know what where you are going, you will stay where you are.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

Can You Stand The Rain?

I remember writing a post about avoiding pushing away your down days.

We can’t be working at peak levels all the time.



But moods can be managed.

And do agree with Tony Robbins on listing out things that trigger your feel good mood.

Especially what you do with your body when you are happy.

Music does it for me.

Listening to Pro, who once known as ProKid, does it for me.

But Rihanna‘s song a doing for me as well lately.

It’s kinda hard checking out her music videos though.

With so much ass and boobs you could swear you’re watching porn.

Maybe America is de-sensitized by nudity.

Hey, sex sales I guess…I was under the impression that it’s her talent, skill, hard work that’s making her stay on top of her game.

Maybe it’s because I don’t watch porn anymore after watching this Porn Experiment.

I digress.

So physically, to trigger my feel good vibes:

  • I have my shoulders back,
  • eyes are wider,
  • I move my hands a lot,
  • I smile,
  • I speak louder and faster,
  • I lean forward when I talk,
  • I make more eye contact,
  • my face is more animated,
  • take deeper breathes and expand my fingers.

But that’s me, I don’t know about you.

My challenge to you is to find a way to decode your body into tricking your brain into feeling good.

So when you feeling offish, there’s a chance you are shooting off your “offish triggers.”


  • slouching shoulders,
  • short quick breaths,
  • sleepy eyes,
  • frowning,
  • closed off body language,
  • crossed eye brows,
  • feet dragging.

There a lot of things eternally that we can’t change, focused on what you can.

I found life is easier that way.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

“The Book You Never Read Won’t Change You”

Was just thinking about affirmations.

About how everyone uses them.

Some use them knowingly and a lot of us do not.

But how the most effective people use affirmations intentionally.

Deliberately leading them to situations they would rather be in.

To paraphrase, affirmations are statements you repeatedly say to yourself.

Which then influence your actions.

Which then generates the results you have in your life.

Some use this affirmation process to guide the direction of their lives to producing the results they want.

Some don’t.

This is not based on my endless research on the subject though.

I don’t have a PhD in Affirmations.

Nah, this is based on my personal experience.

At a time when I was at my most effective.

I use the word “effective” because I created momentum for myself, by taking action regularly with the assistance of this affirmation process, thanks to the good Dr Stephen Covey’s book “The Seven Steps of Highly Effective People.”

In fact I got jealous when I was having a meeting with a potential business partner and she mentioned that she’s going through it and was in love with the principles Covey was teaching.

Teachings at the time I place at the back of my mind.

It took me back to a time when I had a love affair with reading, on any subject, the weirder the better, which led me to this Seven Habits book.

A book that introduced me to the world of personal development.

Never be just a “passing” reader.

Take action on at least one of the suggested mentioned in that instructive you are reading.

Grow with every book or article you read.

The book you never read won’t change you.

A changed you is needed if you want to see changed results.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

You Have To Be Intentional

I am busy reading this book and there was a sentence that impacted me.

About how every process leads to a result.

How your current inactivity will lead to a certain result at the end of the month.

How your current activity will lead to certain results at the end of the month.

So in other words starting at the end and working your way back, to where you are now, is a good way to plan and achieve your goals.

That way you can begin now in doing the things and following the processes that will get you to where you want to be.

We all follow processes or habits that produce the results we get in our lives.

If you want to smell clean and fresh, you follow certain habits that produce that result…that being bathing, body spray and brushing your teeth.

If you don’t want to keep your job, then you can try out these habits, namely: show up late, you not meeting company’s target, behaving rudely to colleagues and clients.

And that’s a set of habits that will successfully get you fired.

So you could say everyone is successful, because even failing can be seen as something you can be successful in.

This due to the kind of habits you are successfully practicing.

If you want the results that your current habits of failure brings, keep applying those habits.

But if you want different results, then you should follow the process that will help you achieve them.

Success and failure are two sides of the same coin.

Sometimes we leave our success to the flip of a coin.

And call it luck.

Those who are wise enough to ask from those who have walked the path, so to make things easier for you.

By adopting their habits of success.

You follow the process and you will achieve the result that comes from your work.

In short, you are in control of the results you are getting in your life.

It’s a matter of being intentional about it.

I love you.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela

That Risky Single Source of Income Strategy

Being self employed is a step up from being an employee.

For me it’s owning a business that generates income monthly whether I’m there or not that really excites me.

I came to this realization from reading up on books like “The Millionaire Next Door: The Surprising Secrets of America’s Wealthy” and “Conspiracy of the Rich – The 8 New Rules of Money” as an example.

I also seeked out financial and business building seminars, and talking to women and men that have businesses of their own.

You will amazed at how many financial independent people out there are more than willing to share their “secrets to success.”

And what I discovered is that you can never be a rich employee if your salary is the only source of income.

With the way things are, you can’t even break-even (to meet your monthly expenses) with only one source of income these days.

Having money is only part of the goal.

The real goal are the things having many will offer me.

One of them being Time Freedom.

And having a big business where about 100 households minimum are benefiting from my products or services are rendering.

The aim now is to building and business or an investment that will produce an addition R10,000 per month after tax passive income.

There’s difference being active income and passive income.

The way I see it, no point getting a salary beginning of the month only to start from scratch come the 1st of next month.

No point getting clients that hound me with deadlines and then take centuries to pay me.

I don’t want to be attached to anyone’s strings.

I’m not anyone’s puppet.

I want to be singing what Pinocchio sang come the next two to five years: I had strings but now I’m free. There are no strings on me.”

How about linking up with mentors that support those dreams, so that I can leave a legacy for my children.

The Why is more important than the What.

Unlike opening up a spaza shop that shuts down when I die.

Look at it this way, we all have 24 hours in a day.

But some of us have found a way to make more money than the rest within the same 24 hour time frame.

So it makes sense to find someone who’s doing the thing you want to do financially and then duplicating what they are doing into your life.

The financial winter is coming.

Just saying it’s best being prepared.

I love you.

I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

~ Musawenkosi Tsoaela